Needing someone to talk to

[CillaGuereca]

Okay so I hit 36wks this sunday and Im so ready for this baby to come out! My husband deployed to Afghanistan 2 days ago...he was originally was supposed to deploy in October to Iraq, but they told us 2wks ago that he will be leaving early to Afgahnistan! I am so lonely and have no family around me! All my family is in Tx and Im stuck in Nc, (I couldnt take a plane because im too far along) I have 2 other boys, but they are down with my family, because I wouldnt be able to handle a newborn with 2 toddlers, so now with my husband gone and my boys in a different state, Im so lonely! September was supposed to be the greatest month of my life (birthday, wedding annversary, our 1st girl and last child being born, and Autumn) but with my hubby leaving I just want to have this baby and go down with my boys and my family! Any suggestions on making this go by fast?? Or any kind words? I guess right now Im still all depressed because of my husband leaving...but I really wish he was here! So any help with having labor come faster? Sex is totally out of the queston (of course) but anything else?

[lena241]

Im sorry that you are in this tough situation. Unfortunately, you cant make labor come any faster. There are many old wives tales, but I personally wouldnt try them. They are most likely not safe.

Maybe you can do something in the meantime to occupy your time. Is there anywhere you can volunteer or maybe something you can help with on the base?

[dd]

It may not help with the loneliness, but I know that I can accidentally spend hours on the internet and not realize the time is going by. Or even better, if you pray at all, prayer is a good way to not feel so alone in your problems, focus on your blessings, and it's a peaceful way to pass the time.

You can also check out a good book, one that you can't put down.

[bvas81]

oh, my heart goes out to you too. Military wife~ toughest wife there is! How long will your husband be deployed? Just trying to make you smile~I'm guessing he won't be here for the birth of your little girl. So, before your due date go get a mani-pedi that way you have some cute toes to look at when you are pushing! A great book to read is The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch! It will definitely help you pass time! When i was pregnant we had a lot of family drama and i was very stressed out. my hair was falling out by a handfull. i would just go to babies r us or to any store really and go straight to the baby section and just look well and buy, couldn't help myself. It always made me feel good. I had my boys to look forward too. and when i would look at things for them.... it was always just about them! made my day a little easier!

[lovin3]

My heart goes out to you. I can't imagine being "alone" so near the end of pregnancy. Do you have close family or friend in the area who can help keep you busy? Finding something to occupy your time will definitely help. Praying, shopping, and reading are good ideas. What about journaling for yourself or your baby? Something that you could share with your husband? Try to stay positive and think about joining your oldest children shortly (I know it seems like a long time now, but in the grand scheme of things, baby will be here soon). Keep your strength up- you, hubby, boys, and baby all need it.

[CillaGuereca]

Thanks everyone! SO MUCH! It really helps to read all this! I think Im doing alittle better, I plan on going to the library and checking out ALOT of books, and not to mention stay on the internet and keep looking up baby things! Im trying to keep my head up! I have a friend who will be coming up here to help me, its so cool because she was my best friend in middle and high school, we kinda seperated ways (she married and had a family too) but when she heard I needed help, she came to my rescue! Other than that now Im just waiting for my little girl to come out....and MAN, waitng is so hard! Its hard to be patient! :) Once again thank you everyone for your kind words! It helped me out so much! I took ya'lls advice! And im feeling better!