View Full Version : Longing to go back to work
02-26-2008, 03:02 PM
I know I'm supposed to be all Mother Earth since giving birth to my baby, but I really miss the satisfaction of work. I love my son, but I just can't wait to get back to my so-called normal life. Am I a bad mom?
02-26-2008, 04:55 PM
Definitely not a bad mom. Being a stay at home mom is tiring and it's not made for every mom. Some mothers are not only fulfilled by being a mother but also by doing other things. If it work makes you happy along side being a mother, than that's a good thing. A happy mother makes happy kids.
02-26-2008, 06:35 PM
You are not alone...by the 4th week of my maternity leave, I was like, great- I need to get out of the house!!
I'm a mother of 2, soon to be 3, and need work as an outlet. I truly believe it helps me be a better mom and love my kids even more.
I admire stay at home moms so much, because I know I could never do it!
By the way...there's no more "so-called normal life" not for the first couple years with no sleep and I haven't eaten a hot meal in 6 years!!! But I would not trade my life now for what I had 7 years ago!!!
02-26-2008, 10:11 PM
Some women just have that natural desire for work, not saying that being a stay at home mom isn't work, it is harder than any job I can think of. Being in the outside world gives you time to associate with adults who you can talk to. Also, being away for a little bit makes it that much more special when mommy comes home.
02-28-2008, 05:03 PM
I wish to delete this post, thank you.
02-28-2008, 05:30 PM
You're not a bad Mom, but you might not be aware of how very lucky you are to have the opportunity to stay home with your child. Many women would love to be in your shoes and be able to stay home with their child but can't swing it, no matter how much they cut back. Enjoy it...it's a blessing!
03-12-2008, 09:40 AM
You're not a bad mom at all! I felt the same way. I stayed home for 12 weeks after my son was born and about a month and a half into it I really missed work. I missed going to work, doing my job and seeing my friends. Now that I'm back to work I wish I could be home with my son. hehe Not only financially. I honestly wish I were the stay at home type. Fortunately my job allows me to take most Fridays off. That helps a lot!
03-18-2008, 12:28 PM
Don't feel bad I know how you feel. I mean, I absolutely love being a S@H mom and always appreciate it. I would hate to miss the new developments my child makes everyday but I also miss having some independence and having my own income. Personally, I don't like to depend on anyone. I tried returning to work once after about 1 year working only Saturdays when my hubby could stay home with our daughter. However he switched jobs and that sched. no longer worked. Now I'm in school and my daughter is in daycare. Even though I study my butt off it's kind of a break for me. My lil one is def. a handful and keeps me going nonstop...I don't care what anyone says/thinks, raising a child can be more work than going to work in some cases. My mother-in-law always tells me that going back to work was the greatest thing she ever did. She says that having 2 sons and a FT job it was easier being at work! Everyone is different and just because you prefer to work does not make you a bad mom at all!
03-18-2008, 12:33 PM
I think every woman has to find her own sense of harmony between the worlds of work and home, and it can be such a difficult thing to do!
ABSOLUTELY!! Also I think it's important to find balance in your life not just for yourself but for your family as well. If you are unhappy or discontent it can affect them too.
03-27-2008, 08:01 AM
I would give anything to be a S@H mother. I am currently enlisted in the Marine Corps so I kinda sorta HAVE to go to work. I was able to have maternity leave for 6 weeks after the birth of both of my children. I long for the day that I can stay at home with my babies. However, by the time I can do that, my oldest will be ready for pre-school so I wont see her as much anyways. The Marine Corps has is very good about letting me go home if my children are sick or have appointments. So I never miss anything pertaining to them. And so far I have been so lucky as to have been home at lunch, days off, etc., when my little girl hit her milestones. I was home at lunch when she started crawling for the first time and when she started walking I was 7 months pregnant with my son and was confined at home b/c I wasnt allowed to be around what I work around. So I was lucky enough to be around for all of those. Now on the other side of the story I was able to be a S@H mommy for about 2 months of her life. And I longed to go back to work. Its just a self-satisfaction for me. I want to be able to say that I can provide for my daughter and son. Yes, I am married and yes, my husband does work (a Marine as well). BUt I feel much better knowing that I support my children through my hard work and dedication and I dont live off of my husbands paycheck. Not saying that is wrong b/c I am gonna do it when I get out in 1 1/2 years. However, I will be going to school so I can get a job when my children are both in school. I just thought I would give my insight on this thread. Whatever mommy you choose to be, S@H or work (full-time or part), you are a saint in my eyes. Just remember that being a mommy is a full time job and if you have more than one child you can use the excuse you have 2 or more full time jobs. No two children are alike. So its two or three seperate jobs. Good luck in whatever you choose to do!
04-11-2008, 12:34 PM
I went back to work when my son was 2 months old. 4 months later my husband and I agreed that I could quite my job and stay home with our son. I loved the time that I was about to spend with him. I stayed home for a year and half, then I decided that it was time to go back to work. As first I thought that i was a bad mom for wanting the socialization of people taller then 2 feet. But after a few weeks I noticed that my son was having fun at daycare. I have been working for 7 months now and my son has been in daycare the same time, he loves it. Most days I get a backward wave good bye and if I am lucky I might get a kiss from him. But the one thing about working that I have found. On the weekends I get to spend that time with my son and it seems almost more special to me. Go back to work, it is satisifying in more than one way.
04-20-2008, 12:25 PM
My first month of being a new mother, I use to feel so guilty about needing to get out! I became a stay at home mom because I didn't want my infant in a child care. And it wears on you! But there are plenty of jobs out there that you can do part time! There are also jobs you can do where you can take your baby along with you and work from home too. Don't feel guilty about needing to work. Our mom's used child cares too! If you don't feel comfortable with them, consider finding a babysitter in your own home!
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