Confused!!!!!

[lil_ramona_09]

I am 18 going on 19 in about a month I found out that im 4 months pregnant and im really excited. Unfortunatley I am unemployed and I have like no money and so im kinda like freaking out about what to do cuz no one will hire me once i start showing that im pregnant. My family is putting stress on me to find a job and my boyfriend is worried about my stress levels. I need advice and help please!!!! :)

[joeysmom0419]

hey, i was sorta in your position, I'm wondering why your parents want you to get your job? As for the stress levels try to stay calm as much as possible.

Does your boyfriend have a job??

[Jayney]

Well, if you are living on your own I would suggest applying for welfare. WIC, Food Stamps, Medicaid, and maybe something to help you pay for rent. I'm not saying use them for the rest of your lives, of course, but if you need help, don't feel bad at all about using them.

[angel16]

If u can't find a job there's always unemployment. I agree with jayne get on everything u can till ur on ur feet again having a job while ur pregnant can b really stressfull and sounds like ur dealing with enough stress there's always section 8 housing too. Well best of luck to u

[lil_ramona_09]

Um yeah my boyfriend has a job but its only weekends cuz he just graduated high school like a week ago ... i have applied for unemployment but have not recieved anything, i have WIC, im on pregnancy medical and i applied for food stamps and cash assitance. My dad feels that I need to have a job because that is how he was raised is that once your old enough it dont matter whats going on you need to have a job

[krystenb]

well i think you need to do what you got to do your priority is your baby and boyfriend congrats by the way

[joeysmom0419]

lil ramona, i wasn't asking about your boyfriend to make you mad I was asking because of WIC information. Its great that you have already applied and gotten on everything. You've already got yourself on the right path. Now just don't stress about your parents.

[lil_ramona_09]

sorry i didnt mean to sound mad lol it doesnt make me mad to talk about him, im trying not to let my parents get to me but i live with them so having to listen to them everyday about finding a job is getting to really be annoying and stressing me out really bad which from what i've been told is not good to be stressed during pregnancy.

[joeysmom0419]

Its not good at all. I'd try to sit down with your parents and your boyfriend and talk to them about everything you have already done. Explain your reasoning behind not getting a job or tell them the way this economy is you can't get one and it doesn't make it easier that your pregnant. If you need anyone to talk to I'm always here. I know all about stress levels and have found some really good ways to realive your stress.

[mommywarrior]

I am a young mom and just some insight... if you know that someone isn't going to hire you because you are prego, that is illegal. They can't let that be a reason not to hire you. I think you need to get a job and your BF needs to get a better one. You need to be able to pay for your babies needs because lets face it, they are expensive. If you are worried about child care after the baby maybe ask your parents since you did what they wanted and got a job if they could watch the baby while you work. Then I think you need to get married and move out so your parents aren't burdened anymore. I know it seems harsh but if you are going to make the adult choice to have a baby, you need to start living an adult life. I worked right up until the day I gave birth. When I was looking for a job I set a goal to have 3 applications in a day. So just keep doing that till you get a job. Never give up or assume that it's impossible. I don't think your parents are right for pressuring you. But they are right that you need a job.

[taraken]

I agree with your parents. You need to get a job and become responsible for the family you have created. Your boyfriend also needs to get a full time job and start contributing. I don't want to sound harsh, but getting a job will help you provide more for your child in the long run. It might not be as easy as getting government assistance at first...but within a few years you will be much better off financially. Graduating from high school, then going on assistance without working at all is going to make it that much more difficult to provide for your family later on in life. Also, you have 5.5 months to make money and save for your child....why waste that time. Pregnant people work every day...so unless there is a medical reason not to work....you are just using your child as an excuse to not work. Not hiring someone because they are pregnant is illegal....so this shouldn't be an issue. Maybe look into working at a daycare center. It will help you learn to care for your child and potentially they will let you have your child in daycare for free after he/she is born.

[addies_mom22]

You don't need a job at all, that's crazy. You just got out of high school, what are you going to do, get a blue-collar job, and raise babies? Not only that, you should spend the first year of your child's life at home with them, and assistance makes that possible. There's nothing wrong with being on Assistance for a limited time period, especially for the first year of your baby's life, and it's more possible for you to get an education now, while you're still young. I'm on assistance EXCLUSIVELY (so there) and I'm using this first year of my baby's life to arrange to go to school next year, and then after my 2-year program we plan to have another child, the first year of whose life I will spend on assistance, at home, raising my baby where I should be. And then once my babies are no longer babies, I'll get a job with my newly acquired education, so that I can give my children a better future.

[ZEPHYRVI]

I agree, it is important to have a job. I worked full time when I was expecting, don't worry it's not that stressfull to work while pregnant, there will be some stress but don't sweat it. Try to find work where they offer health benefits too, and if the subject comes up just let your potential employer know, you may be pregnant but that you intend to return to work after you've recovered. Goodluck to you and congrats.