I Cant Get My 4yr Old Out Of My Bed

[hsteward]

i have a 4 year old and i cannot get her to sleep in her own bed. when she was 2 and half i had to let her sleep in bed with me because she grew out of her baby bed and we lived at my aunts and we didnt have any room for another bed. now that i have moved and recently got remarried. i cannot get her to sleep in her room alone. i can get her to go in there lay down with me and go to sleep. ill get up and a couple hours later shes in bed with me again. sometimes she wakes up as soon as i move to get out of her bed. i have tryed to tell her she can have suprises if she goes to bed alone and sleeps all night in her room. it doesnt work. shes slept on our floor the last few nights. last night she slept on the floor tryed to get in bed at 2am and i told her no she went right back to sleep. but how do i get her to go in her own room and go to bed by her self. im sooo tired from getting her to bed at night i cant function of a morning. help me?

[Kerisweetpea]

I love super nanny and i've seen her tons of times with this same problem and by the time she leaves the kids are in there own bed!
it will take some time but what she does is, just keep on putting the child back in bed, (sounds dumb right?) but the first time she comes in your room take her back and tell her she has to sleep in her own bed then good night and kiss her then leave the room.
2nd time tell her good night and put her in her in her own bed
and after that when ever she keeps on coming back to your room just put her in her bed without saying anything.
i see it all the time and it works, it will probably take a little while cause i know on the show it takes a couple of nights but who knows in real life how long it takes.
I know it will really make you tired after all of this but it will be worth it in the end! let me know how things are going.
I hope this helps you...... Good Luck

[jaydedaisy]

My dd has the same problem. We have to keep putting her back in her bed and slowly it's been working. My dh works nights and I made the mistake of letting her sleep with me for a couple of weeks because she was upset that papa was gone. And what do you know she wouldn't go back. It's hard and it's really tough not to give in when you are exhausted and that sad sweet face is pleading with you but it really is better for them and you in the long run. Stick with it our dd is only trying once a night and she was trying at least 10 times a night. It does get easier.

[lena241]

We had this problem with my 4 year old as well. When I had her I was single, and lived with my parents. I worked nights and my mom would put her in my bed to sleep. This continued until she was about (3). A few months after she turned (3), I had gotten married and moved into my in laws (Our house was being remodeled). I allowed her to sleep in the same room with us, but we had slowly moved her to a toddler bed, which was right next to our bed.

When our house was finally done, 10 months later, she was turning (4). We decided to allow her to pick her paint color and room decor. She made the room hers. We also purchased her a twin bed, and made a big deal about it being a BIG GIRL bed. We have been in the house for 2 months and she has not paid a visit to us once, in the middle of the night. If I do hear her crying or calling, I go to her. I stay with her until she falls back asleep and then I go back to bed. It seems like it would be a pain to do this, but she has only woken up 3 or 4 times when I had to go in there. I also started putting her to sleep with a small fan on. This helps drown out some of the noise we make, after she goes to sleep. It helps keep her asleep.

Have you tried, or can you afford to allow her to redecorate her room, the way she wants it? What about a bribe, like sleeping in your room for five nights, all by yourself earns you rollerskates or whatever else she has been dying to have.
** My daughters room is bright, bright Yellow. She loves it. We bribed her will roller skates for potty training (She refused to go for anyone but me). We bought the skates and put them on a shelf in her room she coulnt reach. We drew (5) squares and wrote a name in each one. She had to go potty for those (5) people to get her skates ( I was not one of them). When she went for the person in the square, we put a sticker in it. Once she got all (5), she got her skates. You could try something similar for sleeping in her room.

Good Luck

[nursegina]

My son had that same problem, and still does a bit. We are working on it. What I finally realized was his toddler bed probably wasn't very comfortable since he's big for his age and it's just metal bars with a baby crib matress. We recently bought him a twin bed and I let him pick out Mickey Mouse sheets and he loves them. He still gets up and tries to come in my bed from time to time but I just keep bringing him back to his bed and it's working! Good luck and stay persistent!