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05-18-2010, 05:42 PM
My son lukas will be two in july and already throughing tantrums and hitting all the time. So far i have used the swat on the hand or butt for disapline, but apparently its not working, i do it and he laughs. I believe my way of disaplin so far has made him believe that hitting is a game. What should i do?
what should you do? I would think the answer to be obvious, stop hitting him. If he doesn't respond to it and it has only served to teach him to hit then do something else. there are many forms of discipline, try timeouts, redirection, distraction, validation, and don't forget the positive reinforcement. catch him being good often.
07-09-2010, 05:53 AM
All I can say is that no matter what your child's age is, it is important to know how is your child's behavior working for you, and how is it working for them. Children at the pre-school stage are developing a whole host of new skills, including: wanting more independence; asserting their wants; and learning about friendship. One of the best things you can do when parenting a two year old is to support your child in attaining these new skills without allowing them to become demanding or spoiled. To ensure you don't fall into unhealthy habits that promote power struggles, choose to use a firm--but kind--approach and look for ways that your child can learn from each situation.
Fire Yourself as Boss of the Household! Many parents buy into the belief that mom should be the boss of the household and be in control. Yet, we must remember that we are modeling for our children how to act every single minute of the day. Our kids learn more from what we do than from what we say. If they see us pulling rank as "boss", they will attempt to be "boss" too. Unfortunately, when this happens, they may outrank us and the real power struggles will begin!
Stay Firm but Kind. If they fight, you follow-through. Do this without yelling, scolding or punishing. Don't buy into their tears, and definitely don't get into a debate. Stay firm, but stay kind. Tell them that when they want a hug, to come find you. I know keeping your cool is easier said than done.
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