View Full Version : I seriously don't believe it's happening
07-16-2008, 01:35 PM
I seriously don't believe that I'm gunna lose the baby weight. I've been doing taebo everyday for 6 months and I'm still the same. taebo isn't easy either. it's hard and it hurts. I did it every morning,but with this baby and everything I'm tired and I'm sick of not getting anywhere. Everyone says I don't look that bad. They say I look great for having a baby,but I don't see that when I look in the mirror.
My husband just gave me 50 dollars to spend on clothes. At first I was excited cause shopping used to be my favorite thing. But now all I do is wear sweat pants everywhere. Half is because I stay home all day but the other half is because I can't wear the same clothes I used to without looking huge and it's hard to find clothes that won't make me still look like I'm still pregnant.
So I stopped exercising today. I got up, gave my baby a bath, and then took a shower myself instead of doing taebo and then showering.
there is no point if I'm still the same size.
07-16-2008, 03:02 PM
I'm sorry you're so discouraged. :( Everyone is different. Some people leave the hospital wearing their pre-maternity clothes, and the rest of us feel like we should still be wearing maternity a year after our baby is born! Honestly, most of my weight came off just from watching what I eat and being active throughout the day. Daily walks with the baby have helped me the most. I'm still battling a wretched 5 pounds or so on my hips. It's frustrating sometimes, but I know it will come off in time. A friend of mine was seriously being asked, "So when are you do?" nearly a year after she had her baby. She was working out and doing everything right, but it took time. Then BAM it was like it finally just fell off. No kidding. You know yourself. If you need to take a break and get some perspective, fine. But I'd encourage to you keep pressing on. Don't focus on the the clothes size or the scale. Just focus on how you feel (and we tend to feel better when we exercise). And it's not a bad idea to go out and buy at least one outfit that you can feel hot in. Even if it's not the size you want, at least you won't FEEL dumpy (I started feeling a lot skinnier when I shed the sweats). ;) Good luck to you!
07-16-2008, 04:31 PM
I know a gym membership might not be a possibility, but they have "experts" who can show you different exercises to focus your exercise to specific areas. You may be exercising, but the exercise may not be helping the areas that bother you the most.
And understand that with a baby your body does change...even if you lose every bit of fat and get back down to "skinny", your hips aren't getting any narrower, your breasts and feet are probably a different size, and even your hair may have changed. Right now, spend time shopping so that you can figure out your new size. Even if you don't buy anything. And be willing to accept a new size, especially if you're looking at the number size. You need stuff that will fit you and make you feel attractive now, not in the future when those pounds drop. When you get those pounds off, pack away the sizes you need now for post-maternity in the future. I was a 6/8 before baby, wearing small (and sometimes xs) tops. Oh to have it back. I just gave away a professional wardrobe I had spent years building b/c the pants will never fit around my hips again (even if I were skinnier) and the tops were getting stretched out by my breasts, wider shoulders and of course they were too short and showed my belly. Wearing parts of this wardrobe actually caused my middle school students to ask if I was expecting again.
I agree with continuing exercise, maybe just change the type of exercise that you get. And get rid of the sweats/lounge pants b/c they will make you feel worse...at least when you are out. I totally understand your frustration.
It has taken every bit of strength for me to not nominate myself for the What Not to Wear show on TLC...
07-18-2008, 09:08 AM
The answer to your problem is simple. You do not believe enough in yourself. Start today by patting yourself on the back for being a wonderful mother and beautiful Woman. In order to look good, you must FEEL GOOD>
Reread what you posted. Most of it was I wont, I cant, I dont...Its alright that you feel that way, but dont stay that way too long. Commend yourself for sticking thru the exercise that you did and KEEP GOING!
Tae Bo is great resistance training. You may be gaining muscle mass, which can make you appear heavier in the mirror and on the scale.
The best way to work on the outside is to strengthen the inside. Find positive affirmations to help you to achieve a better body and whatever else you desire!! Try it, I dare you!!
Several fail-proof tips that will help you:
1- Prayer and Meditation. Breathe in positive energy and KEEP those poisonous negative thoughts OUT!! FOCUS on the positive. Try your BEST to maintain a good mood. Be thankful for everything you have, big and small. You are blessed. Tell yourself "I LOVE YOU" often.
2- FOOD DISCIPLINE. Drink Water and Plenty of it. Measure your food, 1 cup per serving. Cut out Soda and all white foods(bread, sugar, mayo, rice/pasta) Eat brown rices/ pasta, honey, multi-grain bread. Avoid fried foods all together. Eat only baked fish and chicken breast. Snack all day on fresh fruit and veggies.
3- MUSIC/ ENTERTAINMENT- Play the songs that make you wanna get loose. Dance as if no one's watching. LAUGH LAUGH LAUGH Watch a funny movie in your downtime. Your children LOVE to see You HAPPY, and they are your best audience when you dance.
4- Buy a sexy(comfy) pair of heels with that $50, and prance around the house sexy. Heels have a slimming effect.Have sex:)
5- SWEAT. Go for a early morning walk/jog when the kids are sleep (or bring them along if you want).
ENJOY YOURSELF and enjoy YOUR LIFE. COUNT YOUR MANY BLESSINGS.
DONT RUSH. You will get there!
I am sending Peace&Love your way! Catch it and Share it!
07-19-2008, 11:46 PM
stop stressing over a few gained pounds. who cars if your a size 2 or size 20? we has females have so much pressure to be thin, that its all we can think about. I am so sick of people tell us that we have to be thin, i think what is more important ist aht we are healthy
if people are telling you that you look good, listen!!!!! stop being so hard onn yourself!
I know i was quite thin before becoming preggo and right now(im on my 35th) week I am feeling fat and unattrative. but i dont care if i put on a few pounds in the end. it happens. as long as i feel beauitful and my hubby still stares at me that way, ill good to go
07-20-2008, 03:31 PM
Aww..I'm sorry. I know that feeling. I was depressed after having my baby. Thinking I had a whole closet full of clothes I'd never wear again. I quit eating anything fried and stayed away from soda of any type for a while and eventually it came off. I know that with all the hormonal changes that occur during and after pregnany it can keep those extra pounds in place until things have leveled out. I also know that not eating isn't the answer because then your body feels it's being starved so hangs on to the extra weight to sustain itself. I hope maybe that is helpful. :)
07-20-2008, 05:47 PM
I think if you talked with a personal trainer then they could give you tips on what to do. I have heard and do this myself but walking helps a lot. It does not feel like you are doing much but one day you will see a difference. A friend of mine goes to the gym a couple times a week and does a really strenuous workout and she said it took about four months for her to see a difference. We could see it in her but she could not see it. I say just try doing taeboe less and doing more walking or something that you can do with the baby and just give it time and evenutally you will see results. I know it is hard but you just gotta stick with it. Good luck.
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