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jmckenna423
07-09-2008, 09:35 AM
This really isn't a question. I just need to vent to someone, and I really don't have anyone to talk to about this.
I am 25 and I came off of Depo about 2 years ago. Since then, my cycles have been extremely irregular. My husband and I really want another child (our daughter is three) but we just aren't having any luck. My doctor said that we are both perfectly healthy and we shouldn't have any problems concieving after Feb. (18 months after stopping Depo). So, we haven't worried about it, or really tried to help conception along...other than stay healthy and have sex.
Well, today is day 39 (counting from beginning of last period) and I don't have my period. Not bleeding, no spotting, nothing. I've had long cycles before (they fluctuate between 29 and 35 days), but nothing like this. I started to get hopeful....my breasts hurt, I've had cramping and backaches, headaches, I've been tired, hungry and really, really, REALLY emotional. I thought it was PMS but it's been 2 weeks since my first symptom (sore breasts, which I normally don't get with PMS) and still nothing. Sunday I took a pregnancy test which came up negative. So I waited until this morning and took another one...negative. They are First Response Early Detection, and with their sensitivity I know they can't be wrong.
I started crying. I can't stop crying. I didn't realize how SURE I was that I was pregnant until I saw that negative this morning. I mean, I still kind of feel like I am, as silly as that is. And I guess I didn't realize how much I want another baby. It's frustrating to feel like I can't get pregnant at 25-y-o, especially since my daughter was a Pill baby!! And I know my husband is going to be sad too.... if my cycle is this long, I probably didn't ovulate. I'm just so upset and I don't know where to go from here!!

fuzzy
07-09-2008, 03:02 PM
I'm so sorry for you!I've been on the depo before and I had so many complications getting back to normal.I don't want to give you false hope but,when I was pregnant with my son Logan,I took those FIrst Res and got negative until I was like 10 days late.It takes 2 weeks after conception for a test to show positive is it possible that it just hasn't been long enough?We figured we must of gotten pregnant at the end or after ovulation.
Again,I don't want to give you false hope...I just know my experience and thought I'd fill you in.I wish you all the best..
Melissa

RachelC
07-16-2008, 03:38 PM
I feel your pain. I'm in sort of the same situation. Getting pregnant with my first was easy. I went of the pill 8 months before we started trying and I also charted my cycles. We got pregnant on the first try!!! Now I want another one and I've been off the pill for three months now. I didn't wait before starting to try to get pregnant this time around (I heard you don't always have to) and my periods seem to stay on track (pretty much 28 days). I was getting the signs of ovulation (the fertile cm) and having sex accordingly. However this time I am not temping, it's too much to do with a toddler who doesn't sleep well and gets up at the butt crack of dawn. This last month was devastating. The month previously I thought maybe I might be, cause I was having the symptoms (cramping, nausea, tired, sore boobs, etc.) but I got my period on time. This past month was worse. I was supposed to get my period on the 4th, and so far my periods have been regular. So when I didn't get my period I was excited and hopeful. Took a pregnancy test the following day. Negative. What?! I crumbled. I didn't understand. I finally got my period the following day (2 days late). It broke my heart. Like you, I didn't realize how bad I really wanted another baby until I wasn't pregnant. For me I'm just trying keep up hope and just keep trying. I've been doing research and talking with friends and I've heard a few times that just having sex every other day (or everyday for some people) works pretty good if you aren't sure when you are ovulating. We are trying the every other day method right now. I'm crossing my fingers. I also read that book "Taking Charge of your Fertility" when I got pregnant the first time. I went back and re-read parts of it recently and there are other factors that could cause your period to be late. For example, probably why my period was late this time, we just moved three weeks ago. Stress can really delay ovulation and a normal period can be anywhere between 20-40 days. Hang in there. I'm sure it will happen. Maybe you should consider charting. It might work for you.

jmckenna423
09-04-2008, 12:35 PM
Wow, I haven't been on here in awhile! Well, I guess I'll put an update here for those of you who provided me with support (THANK YOU!)

I charted for July and used OPK's as well. Got a surge in the end of July and got busy. :)

August 10th got a Positive. I'm due April 23 (my birthday, ha-ha!) I NEVER expected "really trying" to work the first time around!

Not all happy news though, my hormones aren't doing what they are supposed to and fetal heart beat is low. I've been getting u/s every week to monitor baby and doctor says she'll be "very surprised" if I don't miscarry. I'm still keeping my hopes up because I know, though rare, miracles DO happen with things like this. In the mean time, it's just a waiting game.

Wish me luck and thank you again for your previous support!

Melinda_Jane
09-04-2008, 09:18 PM
congrats on convieving!!!! wishing u all the best of luck and hope it all goes fine and lil bub is albe to continune to grow strong n healthy!

charliesmommy
09-05-2008, 09:51 PM
WoooHooo!!! That is awesome news!!!

bvas81
09-05-2008, 10:45 PM
WOW! congratulations! I'm wishing you the best of luck! Hope all goes well! I hope you keep us updated.