Wanting a 2nd baby....

[iwilliams76]

I have a wonderful daughter who is 14. it has been great raising her as an only child. I was young when I had her & he father has neve been in the picture.

I have been thinking ALOT about having a 2nd baby. The problem being I've only been dating my boyfriend for a few months & I know he's not ready for a child. I respect that & would never just get pregnant as some friends suggested.

The other problem is that I've been on Depo for 7 years now & I've heard after so long my chances of even getting pregnant are slim. Is this true? I have no clue.

I REALLY want another baby, or 2. Trying to decide how old is too old to have a baby

[Newmom!]

As much as you want a child, it sounds like you are not in a relationship that you should yet bring a child into - so good for you not wanting to trick him but waiting until he is ready too.

Take a step back and look at your relationship and desires from your daughter's point of view. She is 14, if she sees you having a baby with a new boyfriend, what message is she getting from it. Is it one that you are okay with her imitating herself? As much as you want another child, be sure to take your daughter's perspective of the situation and values it realays into account. I am not saying don't, I'm just saying you need to make sure the example you set is one you are okay with your daughter following.

As far as Depo goes, Google it and see what is said "out there"
You could always consider adoption if you feel you are too old. Or consider becoming a foster parent. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

[crystele]

I don't know how young you were when you had your daughter, but if you were under 21 you still have a few years left.
If you're worried about Depo, talk to the doctor prescribing it. Perhaps they'll suggest you switch to another method.
If having another child is important to you, make sure now that your boyfriend is on the same wavelength and that he's aware of the timeline you're running against.
I would really suggest not having another child right now with your daughter just entering those fraught teen years. It is hard enough to be a teen, to be a teen with a pregnant mom is harder, to be a teen with a pregnant unmarried mom is 10x harder still.