34 weeks still not showing

[marlalovesmaury]

Hey all. It's been a while since I last posted on here. I started a thread about 10 weeks ago that was basically me complaining that I was 24 weeks and not showing at all. Well now I'm 34 weeks and STILL NOT SHOWING. The baby is normal size for his gestation, I just didn't get bigger--I gained 0 pounds. No one knows I'm pregnant and when I tell people they ask me if it's a fall baby because they think I'm like 3-4 months. I'm having a c-section in 37 weeks so I'll only be pregnant for another 3 weeks. Has this ever happened to anyone? That you didn't show at all for your entire pregnancy? How did people react when you brought home your baby after a whole 9 months of not looking pregnant?

[Jayney]

I didn't show my entire first pregnancy. I gained maybe 10 lbs and that mostly in my breasts. I am very slim and people would ask the annoying, "Are you eating enough?" "Is the baby healthy?" questions. As for how people reacted, everyone important knew that I was pregnant, so it wasn't a big deal. People that I didn't care to tell, would say they didn't even know I was pregnant, but it wasn't a big deal...they knew eventually. And honestly, after your baby gets here, you won't even think about it, you'll be too busy!

Good luck! Wishing you a happy and healthy delivery!

[Newmom!]

I think most of what was posted in your last thread still applies. Remember, you and your close friends and family know you are pregnant. That is what really matters. Anyone who didn't know you were pregnant and sees the baby might make a quick comment, but will otherwise gush over your new little one.

If there is anyone who doesn't know you are pregnant or don't know when you are due, and it is important to you that they know - then tell them. Otherwise don't worry about it - just as Jayney said, you'll be too busy.

Just enjoy the pregnancy while it lasts. Enjoy feeling those kicks and squirms and listening to the heart beat at dr. visits. Enjoy getting the nursery ready and speculating on who the baby will look like. Enjoy being able to go shopping in 3 or 4 different stores without having to haul baby in and out of the car seat at each stop :-). Just enjoy now, and be sure to just enjoy the time you have when your baby comes.


PS - I had people not know I was pregnant, although it was because they never saw me the last few months of my pregnancy. Their reactions? Excited to see and hold my baby.

[jocelynmadsen]

Having been one who showed (even more with my second one), I would say that it would have been nice to not have the visual cue that I was pregnant. It invites well-intentioned but misguided/unwanted/plain dumb advice from people from every walk of life, who you've never met before, and who sometimes made choices that would never work for you (and sometimes shouldn't work for anyone). Plus it would have been nice to be able to do things like shave my legs or reach things that I could when I wasn't pregnant! I know it's probably "the grass is greener on the other side of the fence", but maybe these thoughts can help you reassure yourself that there are pros and cons to showing or not showing. Happy delivery!

[charliesmommy]

Why are you scheduled to have a c-section at 37 weeks?

[marlalovesmaury]

My pain levels have been too high. I was scheduled to have back surgery the week I found out I was pregnant, so that surgery had to be on hold for the past 9 months. Now I'm confined to a bed from my pain and I take a crazy amount of pain killers a day. The doctors want to get him out as soon as he's full term so that I can have my back surgery and go back on the pain medication that helps me be mobile. They're actually taking him out at 36 weeks 5 days and I can't wait!!! Oh, and I'll be having an amnio the morning of the c-section to make sure his lungs are mature.

[charliesmommy]

Really? You're on pain meds? That's interesting because I had carpol tunnel something terrible my last 3 months. I could barely brush my teeth, wash my hair, take a shower, pick up a fork, pick up a pencil or anything else. I was told that I could take Ibruprofin once per week and other than that I had to deal with it.

[charliesmommy]

You're not for real are you Marla? Come on, tell the truth...

[charliesmommy]

She's bed ridden...no one is saying anything!

[charliesmommy]

Really? Someone calls and sees that she's not showing? And people who don't know how pregnant she is are visiting her on bed rest?

[marlalovesmaury]

charliesmommy, is there a reason you're such an asshole to me? what did i ever do to you?

[charliesmommy]

Marla, yes, there is. You started off on this forum calling a lot of people stupid, uneducated and generally not as good as you. You made it very clear that you wanted to one day be a mom and that you had already had the answers. Which, in itself sounds uneducated and stupid.

Then, you get pregnant and make it known that you are electing to have a c-section and one of the reasons is that natural birth puts undue stress on babies. Again...uneducated and stupid!

In that same thread you make a statement about Mommy & Me Yoga classes, charity work and lunching at fancy restaurants with your friends. Then, your next thread you tell us that you are so over weight that you're not showing and booo hooo for you that strangers aren't gushing over your pregnant belly. So which is it? Do you do yoga or eat?

Now you're telling us that you are on crazy amounts of pain killers. Again...not good for your baby and any doctor that would let you take crazy amounts of pain killers should not be allowed to practice medicine.

As I stated before, you are like a characature with your extreme opinions and actions. Plus, you have contradicted yourself so many times that it's hard to believe you are real.

[marlalovesmaury]

The reason I stopped posting on here for months is because of posters like you. I started this thread for actual responses. I don't need to explain the intimate details of my life to you. I'm sorry I answered your initial question on this thread. I should have known this would start again. Please stop responding to my threads if you have nothing to say. I'm not going to honor your ridiculous thoughts with responses.

[charliesmommy]

Marla, you are immature and you stretch the truth. I hope one day you grow up and get some help.

[haleymom07]

Actually her thoughts aren't ridiculous at all, there is no safe amount of painkillers for a pregnant woman. No Dr. would prescribe you painkillers while being pregnant, for the simple fact that you could sue them because of the birth defects your child will have. IMO you are here to cause drama, make a stir, and get some attention. Be gone TROLL!!!

[marlalovesmaury]

Haley, you are misinformed. The pain killers I take (Percocet) do not cause birth defects at all. There are no studies that show they have any adverse affects on a fetus. The only possible negative outcome is that the baby could be born with the drug in its system and need to be observed to make sure it doesn't exhibit any severe withdrawal symptoms. I'm aware that this is a possibility, and I'm prepared to have the NICU check him out to make sure he's okay. It's more dangerous for a mother to withdraw from a narcotic during a pregnancy than to have the baby observed at birth.

Where did you get the idea that no doctor would prescribe a pain killer to a pregnant woman. I know plenty of women who are on various types of narcotics for various reasons. There are even support groups for those of us out there who have to deal with chronic pain during pregnancy.

On a separate note, you're considering me a troll because I'm saying things you don't like to hear? Because you think I'm on here for attention? I've been posting on this website for years, and this year is the first time I've encountered people like you saying negative things to me. If anyone is trying to start drama I'd say it's you.

I'll be having my c-section on the afternoon of April 26th at St. Barnabas Hospital in Livingston, NJ...if you'd like to send me flowers please feel free.

[charliesmommy]

I doubt your doctor prescribed 'crazy amounts' Marla. Not to mention, personally, I would have a hard time taking anything for my own comfort that could cause my baby to be born an addict.

So tell us, if you have this high pain tollerance as you stated in your vaginal birth vs. c-section thread then why is it exactly that you are taking 'crazy amounts' of oxicodone while you are pregnant? Something that could possibly cause your baby to be born a junky.

[marlalovesmaury]

I think my tolerance is different for the kind of pain associated with surgical procedures I've had in the past vs. the kind of pain I have with my chronic back issues. It's something I've dealt with for a long time. Don't think I'm happy about being on these, I don't want to be on these pain killers--it is very difficult for me! I don't want my baby to have even the remote possibility of being born addicted to anything. It's not a choice I have right now. It would be more dangerous for me to withdraw from them during the pregnancy then to have the baby step down from it when he's born. When I found out I was pregnant I had to go off my stronger pain killers so now I'm dealing with the pain on just Percocet. I feel that being on something my doctors say won't hurt the baby's development is ok.

[marlalovesmaury]

Is there any way you can talk about this with me nicely, I'm very pregnant and emotional. I'm willing to talk about this with you but hate being called a troll and immature. Let's just have an adult conversation, even if you don't agree with me let's just talk about it civilly.

[charliesmommy]

I'm not sure what there is to talk about at this point. You came here with your nose held high spewing your twisted logic about pregnancy, birth and babies. You tried to convince all of us of your intelligence and then you end up pregnant while on pain meds before you were able to have back surgery.

You frustrate me something terribly Marla because you exibity no common sense. You judge other people based on their social status being lower than yours, in your opinion. As I stated before you contradict yourself so often it's hard to keep up with your stories.

So, yea, I'm not sure what exactly you want to talk about.

[marlalovesmaury]

Why am I not allowed to express my opinions on here. Why is your opinion the only one that matters?

[Jayney]

So, Marla, how long after your cesarean are you going to get your back surgery?

[charliesmommy]

You are allowed to express your opinions.

[Shariah and Josiah]

when i was pregnat i was a fat ass and boy was i proud i had all kinds of old ladies touching my gut it was awsome xD

[marlalovesmaury]

4-6 weeks, depending on how I'm feeling from the c-section

[Shariah and Josiah]

i like u charliesmommy u remind me of my self

[charliesmommy]

Thanks Shariah!

[Shariah and Josiah]

no problem oh man i got to go im craving choclate yum

[laura149]

Wow. I joined just so I could say this. I think it's very presumptious to judge Marla. As a pregnant woman with sometimes intolerable back pain and full body spasms, I too, have been told by my doctors that I can take pain medication and muscle relaxers. If anyone feels what Marla and I feel, you would understand.
Not that I have chosen to take the medication--but I have been lucky thus far in my pregnancy and have yet to have a full-blown episode.
Of course, we all know the risks associated--but until you are dealing with pain like that, I think it's really best to keep your opinions of the problem to yourself. I hope you never have to experience shearing back pain.

[charliesmommy]

Laura, this is not the first time that whiney Marla has posted something whiney. Check the OP's other posts and the history between members before YOU jump to any conclusions.

[Chandrasfirst]

I agree with Charliesmommy. Please dont come on here with bull. I am pregnant with my first and only child and I come to this website for strong and educated advice and opinions from moms with experience or positive feedback. Thats all it should be. I dont think this should be a game of "Who can get the most responses, attention, or sympathy."