HUGE Discipline Issue - HELP!!

[Woratyla]

My DD 2 years old has just gotten her 9th Bitting incident report from Daycare!!! My problem is that I can't discipline her because she doesn't do it at home!! At our house we spank (my husband and I were both spanked as children, and it works for us) but at Daycare of course they give her a timeout. She doesn't understand time outs because we don't do it. But either way....she is not doing it at home so I don't get the option of disciplining her for it!!! I try to talk to her when we get home, but she is too young to understand what I am talking about since it happened hours earlier. Does anyone have any ideas on this issue??? I think she is getting frustrated with kids, and that is why she is doing it. At first we thought it was her teething, but we were just at the dr and they said that she has finally gotten all her teeth - so that is not the reason!! Any advice would be greatly appreciated!! There are only 5-6 kids in her class, so if she has bitten 9 times - that tells me that someone has gotten bitten more then once!!! I will probably start getting HATE mail from parents!!
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[ocmomof1]

My son had this same issue when he was 2. We were horrified! They do this because of their limited vocabulary. Once children learn more words, they will use them (instead of teeth) to explain their feelings. I bought the book "Teeth Are Not For Biting" (by Elizabeth Verdick) and we read it to him every morning before he went to daycare. His teachers also put a book together for him, showing that it's OK to bite an apple, NOT OK to bite a friend, etc. It worked pretty quickly, thank goodness.

[jenn_0629]

I don't really think that it matters if she does it at home or at daycare. If a a child gets suspended from school for punching someone in the eye, would you let it slide because it didn't happen at home? She needs to know that it isn't acceptable anywhere. I'm not really sure how you should go about that, with her being only two..but I would try to get it through to her that biting is bad.

[NeyUsa]

My son used to have issues when he went to school whether it was hitting or throwing things. At home I use a combination of different disciplines and know that a spanking is not warranted if he has done something hours ago. But my son and I have formed an understanding that if he gets into any trouble at school he owes mommy some time when we get home. SO I get a daily report from the teacher and if he has gotten in trouble when we get home he does a short time out. Some people say time out does not work but I am a believer that it does. Children hate having to stay still and my son dreads time out more than a traditional spanking. So try to incorperate different types of discipline.

[Jena32]

Please don't take offense but I don't think spanking your child is the best route to take , all it does is reinforce the idea that if somebody does something that makes him mad it's ok to hit or in this case "bite" that person.

I don't mean to come down on you for spanking your child , just trying to point out that it obviously isn't working and maybe it's time you tried a new communicative approach.

They learn by watching mom and dad, if you can't control your anger how will he ever learn to? Show him a better way to deal with something when he's mad.

Even though your child has a limited vocabulary he can comprehend more than you think so it's very important to talk to him about the biting. When my kids bit I tugged on their teeth and said NO BITE, it worked for mine but I corrected it early, it may take a bit longer for your child to learn it since it has been happening repeatedly .

You can't just ignore it just because you didn't see it, you really must do something about it, biting is a very nasty habit.

[War_Eagle]

They learn by watching mom and dad, if you can't control your anger how will he ever learn to? Show him a better way to deal with something when he's mad.

Spanking has nothing to do with being angry.

[annasmom150]

I just picked my daughter up from daycare and I swear we were having the same conversation. My daughter isn't biting- but she doesn't listen, tells the teachers "no" and laughs at them when they try to discipline her. I don't know what to do. She certainly doesn't do this at home with us- so therefore I'm not sure how to correct her (sound familiar??) My husband and I aren't fans of the time-out... we are spankers too- but thankfully we don't have to do it often because like I said- she doesn't do this at home. Regardless of your discipline style the bigger question for both of us is how are we supposed to deal with it if we aren't presented the behavior? I can't believe that disciplining her several hours later is functional. (my daugher is 2 as well)