lovin3
06-05-2008, 10:06 PM
Just looking for a little input/advice from experienced parents of biters. My youngest is almost 13 months and he is a biter. He has bit me several times on the shoulder when being held or on the top of my leg if he's standing in front of me (and, unfortunately he bit a couple of times when he was teething while I was nursing... ouch!). Every time I've been bit I turn his face toward mine, firmly tell him no, no biting, and put him down. He always gets upset when I "discipline" him. After a minute or so, I'll pick him back up, tell him no biting again, hug him, and then we go on with our day. It always seemed random, it didn't occur too often, and I associated most of it to teething. Until today...
Recently, he's been getting more vocal, shall we say, if he doesn't get his way or if someone does something that he doesn't like. Normal, I know. Today, however, he bit my oldest son (almost 3) while they were playing together. My oldest tried getting a ball from him and the biter leaned over and bit his finger. I did the same thing in dealing with the situation as I had when he bit me, but focused my attention specifically on the "victim". They even hugged when it was over (since he obviously can't say sorry). I've worked in daycares before and had to deal with biters. I really don't want my child to turn into "one of those kids". I think my husband and I have a decently strong discipline system in place with our oldest. Not that things are perfect, but he definately knows not to hit, bite, etc. my husband or I. Especially this young, we want our discipline to consist of teaching the correct behavior, but it is hard to teach "not biting".
I was just wondering if anyone else has dealt with this so young (I haven't necessarily seen aggressive biting before 18-24 months). Could it just be because he's teething, or is he an agressive biter. Is there anything that you did to help deter your young one from biting? I definately want to nip this one now!I'd love any input seeing as I don't want reports of him biting... Thanks in advance.
Recently, he's been getting more vocal, shall we say, if he doesn't get his way or if someone does something that he doesn't like. Normal, I know. Today, however, he bit my oldest son (almost 3) while they were playing together. My oldest tried getting a ball from him and the biter leaned over and bit his finger. I did the same thing in dealing with the situation as I had when he bit me, but focused my attention specifically on the "victim". They even hugged when it was over (since he obviously can't say sorry). I've worked in daycares before and had to deal with biters. I really don't want my child to turn into "one of those kids". I think my husband and I have a decently strong discipline system in place with our oldest. Not that things are perfect, but he definately knows not to hit, bite, etc. my husband or I. Especially this young, we want our discipline to consist of teaching the correct behavior, but it is hard to teach "not biting".
I was just wondering if anyone else has dealt with this so young (I haven't necessarily seen aggressive biting before 18-24 months). Could it just be because he's teething, or is he an agressive biter. Is there anything that you did to help deter your young one from biting? I definately want to nip this one now!I'd love any input seeing as I don't want reports of him biting... Thanks in advance.