17 and pregnant

[tanyalovesyou13]

I'm 17 years old, and im due May 22. I've been going through alot boyfriend, friends, and school. I've been so stressed and would like some encouragment. Me and my boyfriend have been together since January of last year; he has a bad temper whenever we get into an arguement he goes crazy on me and starts to make me cry and alot happens. He doesn't apologize until after i leave his house, and i always go back. I love him, but i dont know what to do. He's the one that stresses me out the most. Mostly all my friends have disappeared since i've gotten pregnant, and i have no one else to talk to other then one of my friends but she's always with her boyfriend & lives with him so i never get to see her. All i want is someone to talk to and can relate to my situation.

[Baby Mama151]

Hi. My name is Tricia. I'm 17 as well. Everyone needs someone sometime so if you ever need to talk to someone, just let me know.

[Bayleighsmommy510]

I am 17 and due may 20th. =]

[Taylor08]

I'm 19 yers old and none of my family is supporting me through this so i understand how your feeling im due in the end of june, but i know how you feel about your boyfriend im the same way with mine but you might be surprised how many of your tears come from the hormones because ive cried almost everyday and not to mention how bad my anxiety has gotten. trust me your not alone! im here if you want to talk i wish they had messaging on here lol!

[Jayney]

I turned on my PM, in case you would like to talk privately. I'm sorry for what you are going through. My oldest sister got pregnant when she was 17. She's 29 now, with four beautiful kids and a great husband. Don't worry, it will all work out. What are you doing to prepare for the baby? Do you know the sex yet?

[amanda_jeannette]

I'm 16 but im due may 22 also =)). I kno a lot of what your going through. There is a lot of stress and relationship problems. My dad doesnt allow me to have contact with any friends or my BOYFRIEND and the only school i get to go to is night school so your pretty lucky. Your boyfriend should realize that there isn't time for arguing because theres a baby on the way and he is lucky he gets to be there for you and his baby. My dad is moving me out of state away from my boyfriend. He wont even get to see his baby or me=((. If you want to talk more write me but dont stress and cry because its bad for you and the baby.oh ya are you having a boy or girl?

[mommyfour]

It does not matter what kind of stress the baby is putting your relationship through your boyfriend does not have any right to be so rude and mean. Do you really love him or are you scared that no one else will want you after the baby is here? I am not trying to be mean but you need to ask your self what true love is. Would you die for him? Love is patient, love is kind,It does not envy, it does not boast it is not proud.It is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not rejoice in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes,always preservers. Love never fails. 1Corinthians 13:4-8a Think about this a little. Does your boyfriends "love" reflect these qualities?

[baybeegirl]

I know what your goin through a little too well. I'm 17, 18 in june and I'm on my 2nd. Its very hard to get through it all, you just need to put your all into it. I'm here if you need someone to talk to. Don't hesitate to contact me =) xobaybeegirl@gmail.com

[MamaGreenThumb]

You need to get away from your boyfriend. Maybe not perminently, but fighting and stress is going to hurt you and your baby. Maybe the time away will open his eyes to what he's doing wrong. Or open yours to better possibilities.

Either way, this is your baby and it's your responsibility to protect the both of you.

On a lighter note, have you figured out a name? What sex is the babe? Planning can be a lot of fun, and take your mind off things that are upsetting you. Have you looked for support groups or young mom groups in your area? If you need any help let me know. And it sounds like you've got quite a few shoulders willing to listen.

[kelli050]

you sound just like me about 5 years ago. I was 17 when I got pregnant with my oldest and I too was in a bad relationship. I thought I loved him, but he was very emotionally abusive. It wasn't until after our child was born that the physical abuse started. By this time we had been together for over 3 years, and at the time I still thought that he loved me too and that everything would work out. I too lost pretty much all of my friends when I became pregnant, I had never felt so alone and I think this is why I clung to him to much. When looking back at everything I honestly realize that I didn't lose my friends because of my pregnancy, I lost my friends because of my overbearing and abusive boyfriend. Everyone told me to get out until they were blue in the face, but I just kept denying everything. I was the only one working (yep...all throughout my pregnancy while he did nothing) and not only did I pay for all of my stuff and every time we went out I also had to support his drug habit if I wanted to have a less stressful night at home.
Now that I have been away from him for almost 4 years (I left when my daughter was about 6 months old) I see how absolutely blind I was and wish that I would have realized it a lot earlier. I was with this guy from the time I was 15 until I was 18, I am very scarred emotionally from not only him but losing my teenage years to his 'craziness' as well. I've honestly put up a mental block and couldn't tell you much about those 3-3 1/2 years of my life. This isnt' something that anyone should have to go through, I still suffer with depression and other self-esteem issues because of this. I don't wish that upon anybody.
I was lucky enough to meet a wonderful man who absolutely adored my daughter as well as myself. We have been married for 2 1/2 years and have a 3 year old daughter and #3 due in December. He has even adopted my oldest (after a long battle with the a-hole to sign over his rights even after he hadn't seen or helped with anything for about 2 years at that time).
I know that there are people all around you telling you what you should do - I had the same thing and refused to listen. If you want to talk feel free to contact me, I won't lecture you...but I'll do everything I can to help you. I know exactly how it is and I know how much I would have appreciated the help or "way out" that I so desperately needed. Having my daughter changed me so much, I turned my life around and I am a much better person because of her - you can do it :)

[dreamit]

First off CONGRATULATIONS!!! Then onto my advice it would have to be for you to get out of that relationship. I got pregnant when I was 19 and like you my friends stopped talking to me. I felt like my boyfriend was the only person that I could talk to, that would support me. I was wrong, he would emotionally and physically abuse me. Unfortunately I am still with him with 3 kids. It gets more difficult to get out of the relationship the more you stay in. He wont change please dont think he will. I hope you find this out sooner than I did. I dont want you looking back hoping that you would have gotten out sooner. Dont start changing your view of things. The more I am with him the more I wonder, is this abuse, do I deserve it. But no, no one does! Its abuse if he insults you, hits, shoves, threatens you in any way. Please get out, do it for you and the baby. I know it will be difficult but there is support. Go to government agencies they can provide you with help and places to go. If you are in school you can get childcare. Just please look into finding a safe place for you two. You can email anytime. I will help you find places to get you help. Email me at dreamit08@yahoo.com Please take care I send my best to you and your child!

[coley_wickiser]

ya know..... im reading all these posts. and im kinda thinking is there ever going to be a guy that will ever grow up adn support his pregnat girlfirend?. im 16 and im due august 20. and my boyfriend pretty much just bailed when he was expected to start paying for stuff. its like he doesnt get it. and it sucks. me and my parents have done nothing wrong and they have treated him like he was there own son. his pride is getting in the way of us being together and rasing the baby. and i dont know what to do.

[c909907]

I turned on my PM, in case you would like to talk privately. I'm sorry for what you are going through. My oldest sister got pregnant when she was 17. She's 29 now, with four beautiful kids and a great husband. Don't worry, it will all work out. What are you doing to prepare for the baby? Do you know the sex yet?

[azielsmommy7210]

Don't stress so much..
I had my first child at 16 and let me tellu it was hard.. loosing "friends" is part of growing up.... that's when u realize who is going to b there for you and who isn't. When I first moved in with my babys dad it was hard n horrible.... he would rather be hanging out with his friends then looking for a job to support me and his kid... we had a lot of arguments. I would always move back in with my mom and would promise myself not to go back but eventually I would... its hard asa teen mom but if u focus on the important things like your schooling your self and u baby u can make it through..I made through high school and graduated with my class. And yess I am back wiht my babys dad and he has changed... so if your bf is worth being with and he wants to own up to his responsibility he will come around and honeslty arguments are always part of any relationship... just keep your head up and don't stress so much its not good for your baby..just ignore him and think of something else why you to argue.. it works