Daughter Won't Go #2 in Toilet

[bluegrassmom]

I've been prepotty training (getting her used to the toilet, changing her diaper frequently so she doesn't like being wet, etc.) my daugher since she was 18 months old. On January 1st, I started serious potty training (she will be two on January 22nd). The first week was terrible, the second week was great. We're on week three and she's been having a few more accidents and hasn't been telling me right away like she has been right from the start. However, I think that's just part of the process so although frustrated, I'm not worried about it. What I really need help with is her pooping. When we started prepotty training, she would happily poop in the toilet quite frequently. The day I started serious potty training, she has consistently pooped in her underwear EVERY SINGLE DAY!!! If I wanted to rinse poopy clothes out in the toilet, I would've gone with cloth diapers! She usually goes in the morning although that does vary occasionally. After the first week of her pooping in her underwear every day, I began to give time-outs for doing it because she obviously is aware of what she's doing. It's been over a week of doing that and it hasn't made a difference. If I could get her to poop in the toilet just once, I would give her two m&ms instead of the one she gets for potty and make a huge deal over it, but I haven't been given the opportunity so she doesn't realize there's an incentive to pooping in the toilet. Although she doing great with going potty, I'm about ready to give it up and put her back in diapers because I'm so sick of dealing with poopy underwear. Please give me some ideas!!!

[mommy42boys]

Don't give up, my son did the same thing. We were constantly cleaning poop out of his underpants. I personally would not give timeouts for not going in the potty, she shouldn't feel ashamed of it. We always had extra underwear everywhere we went and talked about it with our daycare provider, they also just cleaned out his underpants and changed him. When he did poopoo in the potty he got sweetarts. We would put him on the potty to poop at least twice a day and he would try, you could tell he was pushing. And then 10 minutes later he would go in his pants. It takes time, keep using positive reinforcement and don't give up. She will get there.

[mommy42boys]

By the way, he very rarely has accidents anymore. He just figured it out one day, she will too.

[trishahejduk]

Just so you know, she is doing a lot better than my 2 year old son. We have been potty training since he turned 2 in September. He does not like to go poopy when he is sitting. I can take him immeadiately off the potty & I turn my back & he poops on the floor! LOL!
I'm afraid to use regular under ware! I have to stick with Pullups. I hope he catches on soon.
Good luck!

[joyofpacolet]

Don't worry it is a common problem with all kids. My 2 almost 3 year old has been peeing like a champ since last summer and he will not poop in the potty, he will hold it until he goes to bed at night and has on a diaper or until i am no watching and then goes on the floor or in his underwear. I gave up quite a few times because i was getting so stressed out by it. Just this week i decided he was going to get it no matter what and i am going to out last him and now when we are home he wears only a long shirt and i watch him like a hawk to catch him going so i can rush him to the potty. He also has been told that mommy will throw him a party when he gets it in the potty, cake and all. Have faith they will eventually get it and they won't be wearing diapers in high school. My other son was 4 before he was potty trained because he just wasn't interested.