17 and pregnant needing some encouragmen

[Chels626]

I'm 17 I will be 18 the 2nd of February me and my boyfriend of 2yrs Robert were engaged to be married this May...I found out I was pregnant November 23 happy thanksgiving to my mother and goodbye to the wedding plans for now telling my mom was easier than I thought telling Roberts parents was easier still and since we've been living together since I was 16 and have our own house helped matters a lot we wanted kids just not now and took every precaution we could ...my mother and my father are divorced and since I don't see my dad much he's kind of a stranger anyways I haven't been able to tell him honestly I'm afraid to any advice anyone

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

So, first let me start off by saying anything that I say in this post isn't to be mean it's to tell the truth. I have been in your position so I am in no way judging you. I do believe though that your mother should have been no concern to tell in the first place. This is because if she is going to let you live with your boyfriend at the age of 16 she should expect this anyways. I don't understand where her mind is to let that happen. Second, I have been there done that. I got pregnant with my son when I was 16 years old. I moved out when I was 7 months pregnant and 17 years old. I felt this was best for all of us if the baby, my boyfriend (now my husband), and I lived together on our own. We had created this life and it was our responsibility to take care of it. It definitley isn't impossible you just have to realize life isn't about you or your fiance anymore it is now all about this child. Keep your head straight and remember this isn't the end of your life it's the beginning of a new one. Hopefully, you are in school...stay there! It won't be easy, but it is very possible! Good luck and I am on here daily if you need anything or just someone to talk to.

Also, a quick version of my story to show you it isn't the end of the world, but it is up to you...

Like I said I got pregnant when I was 16 years old. We moved in together when I was 17 years old and 7 months pregnant. I was a junior in high school at this point and graduated in the top 20 of my class with a 13 month old son. We struggled every day to make ends meet, but we done it. I went to school every other day and worked the days I didn't go to school. I also had a baby to take care of and a house to maintain. My boyfriend (now husband) worked second shift so I was gone all day and he was gone all night until past our bed time. It was rough, but it wasn't impossible.

Now, we have been married for almost a year. Our son is almost 5 years old and I wouldn't trade him for the world even though he came into my life at a very unexpected time. We are now expecting our 2nd child in July...I just graduated from Cosmetology school and my husband is employed at a local mine which has always been his dream because of past generations doing the same. We aren't in perfect conditions financially or in any other way, but we have came a long way from where we were 5 years ago. We are celebrating our 6 year anniversary in a few days and our 1 year wedding anniversary in a month. Life isn't perfect...but it's way better than we ever thought it could be back in those early days...It will be fine I promise...but it's up to you and your fiance

[Chels626]

Yes I'm still in school I graduate May....I was raped when I was 14 and got pregnant my mom wanted me to have an abortion I don't believe in them I had my own job and had money put back so I got my own apartment away from her...I got emancipated Without my fathers knowledge because he has no rights anyway .... I was in a car accident my best friend was driving me to school and another car hit us I had a miscarriage this is why my mom let me leave.....my jobs while living there was childcare mainly I kept my cousins baby's (3 wks and up) overnight sometimes days because they wanted breaks I know what to expect with a baby though I shouldn't It's just this time every things more stable and I have a relationship with my mom and a blind sighted relationship with my dad I don't know how to tell him his baby girl is about to make him a granddaddy

[ProudMaMa&Wife]

You need to just let it out. No one can be mad forever. It's over and done with it and they will just have to move on and become happy to expect their grandchild. It will all be okay...I was scared to and now my son is the light of all of our families eye!

[Chels626]

Thanks for the encouragement Tiffany

[Chels626]

I have a lip ring does that make me a bad parent

[neesah2022]

Hey Chels626 How are u? U really don't need anyones advice it soumds like you have been ok this far don't be scared all thing happen in our lives for a reason!!!! Continue to siport yourself and whenyour vhild gets here be the best mother you can be because your child didn't ask to be here. And one thing my mother made sure she told me at 16th was that she loved and was supporting me but that I had a responsilblity to my child and myself to move forward and finish school and be the best person I could be. To not let this hold me back and to make this be my last until I was grown and Married or in a better situation. I was with my childs father for years and also moved in together at age 16th...we didn't stay together and I am now married with my first child and also a son and God willing a nother on the way..so hold your head up and be strong and know that God has you under his wing and Love your child and yourself!!!!

[Chels626]

Thank you so much I really appreciate that, it made me feel a whole lot better :)