DCRoberts

[NaomiK]

I got your pm - your pms are turned off. If you can turn your pms on, I would be more than happy to reply.

[NaomiK]

So does this mean you dont want a reply? Your pms are still off... I dont understand why you would send me a pm like that and not want a reply

[H.Starr]

Its typical of someone like her. "HAHA I got to say what I want and you can't say anything back! I got the last word!" Childish. She knows she wouldn't like your response, so she doesn't want to hear it.

[dcroberts]

I wasn't looking for a reply Naomik. I saw qualities in your writing that left me with an unclear opinion on your character- so chose to go with a more positive view. There are a couple of women on this site that I don't want to receive a pm from, so it is safer to simply receive none. I am unused to hearing foul or derogatory language and certainly don't want it delivered to my inbox. The women that I am in daily contact with do not lower themselves to calling others names. They respect people for their differences of opinion and know when to agree to disagree. I can not imagine a single woman that I know acting in the flagrant childish manner exhibited at times on this forum. I cringe when certain women on here gang up on somebody and attack, and I was in the mood the other day to show them that not everyone finds them delightful.
H. Starr- you can be the pot. I'll be the kettle.

[H.Starr]

You're exactly right, CharliesMommy.

DC - I can't be the pot if my PMs are on, ready and waiting to have a lovely chat with you. Because I won't be like you, like CharliesMommy pointed out, and talk about you and then run away when you want to talk back.
And us women that you are referring to give wonderful advice...when the person is worth giving advice to! Trolls? No. Cocky little know-it-alls? No. Real people with real questions? Absolutely. And THOSE are the people who have no complaints about all of us. And if the rest (and you) do, who gives a sh.it??

[NaomiK]

First of all, I do not care what you think about my "character". I dont know what makes you think I would give a damn what you think. And if you have problems with OTHER people on this site why did you pm ME! Take it up with the people you have problems with. I dont understand why you PMED ME! Its not like you were trying to get clarification of my character or you would have let me respond.

Next, I dont know what makes you think that the women you are referring to would care to pm you in the first place. Why would they waste their energy on that? Do you really think they would pm you just to call you foul or derogatory names? I mean, really.

Dont even start talking about respecting peoples opinions and agreeing to disagree. You make NO sense! We were the ones trying to move on when you went and posted something to bring it all back up. Talk about agree to disagree.

FYI - They (and I) already know not everyone finds us "delightful" - if we gave a damn if you found us delightful we wouldnt say the things we say in the first place.

Now, turn on your pms or I can post my reply here. Thanks

[hardworkinmama]

Well said Naomi. I applaud you!

[kare.bear]

I just realized that I have no idea how to turn on my pm's or if they are already on... It's not an option in my profile. Can anyone give me hints? :)

[H.Starr]

Go to your 'User Profile' (link at the top of the screen) and go to your options. Its in there.

[big-mouth-burgher]

Your PM setting is always turned on when you start out. You have to go in (like Heather said above) and turn it off yourself by clicking on the box to remove the option. If your box is checked you can send and receive private messages.

[NaomiK]

Well by golly! I think those were two very delightful responses H.Starr and big-mouth! Thanks for being so helpful to a fellow member :)

[H.Starr]

By golly?! I'm not even touching that one. ;)

And thank you, Naomi, I find you to be quite delightful as well. :)

[NaomiK]

HAHA - I couldnt help myself.

[big-mouth-burgher]

I am just being my normal helpful, sunny self. :)

[mommy42boys]

I realize that this has nothing to do with me, howver since DC started most of this by defending me I feel the need to add something. DC, I would have pmed you but, obviously, I can't. I appreciate your point of view and what you did for me but, at this point, it does seem to me that you're beating a dead horse here, no offense. If you were really going to agree to disagree you would have dropped it by now. The ladies here know that I don't agree with some of what they say and we generally agrue back ond forth over a specific topic and then move on. I suggest it is time for you to do the same.

[NaomiK]

Wow Mommy42boys, Im impressed. Thank you for that. If she would have let me respond (I wrote the whole damn reply before I realized her pms were disabled) I was going to tell her that we generally disagree, but we just learn to ignore eachother

[H.Starr]

Wow. Mommy42Boys just said something worthwhile! I'm with you, Naomi, I'm impressed too!
I should play the lottery today....

[ra11en]

I haven't participated in this because I didn't want to muddy already murky waters.

But Naomi - you rock. I've said it before and I'll say it again. :D Even at times that I may not agree with your opinion (a very rare occurence), I applaud you standing up for yourself, your friends, and what you feel is right.

And I'm impressed with Mommy42boys too. Great reply!!

As for H.Starr....well.....LMAO!! :D Sorry, had to throw it in there!! My favorite person to disagree with. Proof that you can disagree / dislike someone and coexist peacefully - if not, dare I say, friendly like. :P

[NaomiK]

Thanks ra11en!

[tmonfet01]

I have to say to all the regular ladies on here. I do quite enjoy reading all the opinions that each one of you give on everything. Do I agree with all of your opinions all the time? Absolutely NOT. However, I'm a 23yr old mom of a toddler and soon to be mommy again. I enjoy coming on this particular community forum because the moms are real. To be honest, as a military wife who has not lived in the same area for more than a yr, the past 5 yrs, it's nice to come back to talking and chatting with women that just put it out there. I appreciate it.

However, I think that for someone who boasts to be understanding, helpful, and an adult, DC is absolutely NOT acting as such. If you want to start trouble with someone, talk about someone, or anything like that, you should be an adult and be able to take that other persons opinions if you're going to make them endure yours. So turn on your PMs and stop being such a child.

[NaomiK]

Thank you tmonfet01!

I am going to wait until later tonight before I decide to just post my response on the boards, however, I know that could get ugly considering I was not very happy when I wrote it, but I am not changing a thing!

[big-mouth-burgher]

You know that I'll support you NaomiK, no matter how much drama this stirs up. DC is just asking for the drama, so give it to her. Some people just have to have drama in their lives.

[H.Starr]

Shut up, ra11en. Don't tell people that we're friendly. :p I hate you!

:D

Naomi - Post anything you want. I mean, you can post pictures of other people's deceased kids and say they're your own if you want to. You won't get kicked off of here for that, clearly. ;)

[NaomiK]

I really did not want to do this, but I feel like I have no choice. It would have been nice to keep it all in private, but it seems you are unwilling to do that. I am not going to ignore your pm.

Keep in mind I wrote this before realizing your pms were off

First, I appreciate that you pm'd me instead of talking this out on the boards. Yes, it looks like you have been a member longer than I have, congratulations. What exactly are you apologizing for? This seems like more of an attempt to defend yourself than an apology.

H.Starr and Big Mouth may have been rude to Mommy42boys, but she tends to stick her nose where she shouldn’t, so I could care less about what they say to her. I didn’t make those comments you were referring to. I believe that was H.Starr. So I suggest you pm her if you don’t like it.

I did see that Big Mouth took that comment about potty training into that thread, however, I believe she was trying to relate that to the potential pedophile in question. Either way, that is why I said I don’t care about the whole squirter comment. I said that on the board. I didn’t take a side there - friend or not. And in my eyes, the two posts were different anyway. She created the pet thread in an attempt to stop the arguing, and you came in and copied and pasted a quote from the argument! She copied and pasted a quote as well, but it was from another innocent thread, not an argument that we were trying to move on from. Not to mention, when she quoted you, she was not hiding the fact that she was calling you out. However, when you quoted her, you did it in a way that made it seem as though you were trying to be nice and have something in common with her. Which as you have just told me, is not the case, you quoted her because she did it to you. Revenge card. That is why I called you out and not her. Again, if you have a problem with what she did, you should pm her.

I have not alienated anyone. Mommy42boys gets on my nerves, I can’t lie, but there have been times when she had something intelligent to say. So, I do NOT address her without reason. I usually just ignore her, and she ignores us. It works out fine, and has been for a while now. So with that said, I felt like you were putting yourself in the mix to cause an argument and that is what you got.

And you mention loyalty - yes, I am very close with some ladies here, and I do tend to defend them when need be. However, if you take the time to look back on my posts, you will see that I have disagreed with pretty much every person on the board at one point or another, and even argued with them about things. I don’t take sides because someone is my friend. I stand up for the person I feel is in the right - and in this instance, it was Big Mouth.

If you are concerned with someone leaving after being treated with disregard, then I assume you have also pm'd those who you feel treated that person with disregard (meaning Big Mouth and H.Starr)- seeing as how I called you out, no one else? If you are concerned with the way they spoke to someone, concerned that person may leave, than take it up with them because I cannot, and will not, speak for them. I don’t believe that I treated anyone unfairly given the way the argument was going and the way ALL parties were acting.

The point is – you had an argument with a couple ladies who I defended and are questioning why I defended them right? Because I agreed with them, that’s why. Not because they are my friends or because I am loyal to them. And you are wondering why I called you out and not Big Mouth for coping/pasting a quote from another thread? Because you copied it from an argument we were trying to move on from and you did it in a deceitful manner in an attempt to make it seem like you were trying to find something in common with her.

I don’t like to fight either, not like this anyway. An intelligent debate over something that actually matters is much more interesting and fun. This is a waste of time.

[charliesmommy]

I wasn't looking for a reply Naomik. I saw qualities in your writing that left me with an unclear opinion on your character- so chose to go with a more positive view. There are a couple of women on this site that I don't want to receive a pm from, so it is safer to simply receive none. I am unused to hearing foul or derogatory language and certainly don't want it delivered to my inbox. The women that I am in daily contact with do not lower themselves to calling others names. They respect people for their differences of opinion and know when to agree to disagree. I can not imagine a single woman that I know acting in the flagrant childish manner exhibited at times on this forum. I cringe when certain women on here gang up on somebody and attack, and I was in the mood the other day to show them that not everyone finds them delightful.
H. Starr- you can be the pot. I'll be the kettle.

I guess she really meant that she was not in the least bit interested in your reply NaomiK.

OK ladies...you tell me. What type of person would you rather have respond to your posts? Someone who tells you how they feel regardless of how tactful and gave you the right to respond or someone who tells you how they feel and then shuts you out. Not to mention, how one sided is it to send someone an unsolicited pm and not allow them respond? If I were to turn my incoming pm's off, I would have the integrity and respect to not pm anyone! Wouldn't you?!

And dcroberts, I hate to break it to your narcissistic ass, but I highly doubt any of us would pm you with derogatory language when making a fool of you is so much more fun in public.

[ra11en]

You'll have to try harder Tammy. That certainly isn't going to get you more than 24 hours.

[big-mouth-burgher]

Welcome back Charlies mommy I have so missed your honesty, wisdom, and charm!

[NaomiK]

ROFLMAO! You guys make my day. Really.