Second baby...different feelings?

[paaknd]

Hey all...I am pregnant with my second child. It was not "planned" and I am definitely not having the same feelings that I had with my first pregnancy. I feel really guilty about it and am wondering if anyone else has a similar situation. I'm sure feeling sick all day long really isn't helping either. My daughter is 18 months old, too.

[momofahunter]

I too am expecting my second. I am 11 weeks along and my son just turned one! Sooo, I will have two under two! This one was planned and hoped for, but I still dealt with some guilt and fears ect ect... I think the feeling is a little different with your second because you know whats coming! Your still excited, but you also know how hard it will be and you will be dealing with your toddler as well. I'm excited about having another little blessing, but I also dread those first couple of weeks. Trying to figure out how to handle both kids, try to sleep/eat, breastfeed while chasing a 1.5 year old around!!! I would say your just feeling overwhelmed and a little scared. I know I am. I'm extremely excited, don 't regret a thing, but I'm a little nervouse too. I also have been sick and it is SO hard to take care of my son when all I want to do is sit on the couch and gag!!! :)

[surprise2010]

I'm with you my son will be 7 when my second child will be born. this baby was a huge surprise for us we were not really going to try for a second child but here we go... Im really scared with this pregancy and not really sure why, I guess because I know what Im in for. Being due in the middle of summer pretty much ruins my familys summer plans we are very much a boating family sking, wakeboarding all the typical water activities and now mom will be staying home. I dont want to make my husband and son stay home with me and miss out on thier fun. we are basicly starting over I just gave away all my baby stuff about a year ago so we must buy all new. Sure hoping my fears will subside closer to the birth.... I just keep reminding myself God does everything for a reason and there is a reason why God is blessing us with a second child.

[sdolphin_n]

Hi, everybody. Until now I wasn't really getting too much into the whole pregnancy thing - except being super careful not to do anything to hurt the baby - because although we're going for live-birth #2, we are on pregnancy #12. I didn't want to get into it and tell people and plan and dream, etc. and then have another miscarriage and have to not only deal with the grief but also explain to people that the baby died. But the ultrasound looked and sounded promising, the doctor told us at my last prenatal appt that everything looks good so far, and I've gotten into the second trimester - which only one miscarriage did - so I'm starting to be less stressed and more excited. I'm due September 2, so I may deliver in August (wish me luck). But my daughter needed a jump-start two weeks late.

Morning sickness hasn't been a problem for me in this one - that's a first, by the way. But boy can I feel the effects in my tender swollen breasts, my aching back, my bladder issues, and the sensations in my stomach and bowels. My brain's started turning to mush too. I'm lucky to remember my address or what day of the week it is. I have post-it notes EVERYWHERE to remind me I need to make this phone call and I have that appointment and this bill needs paid ASAP.

My daughter will be 8 years old when the baby's born - unless it's earlier than expected. She was born August 17, which would put this one 2 1/2 weeks early if my daughter's still 7. She is dying for a little sister, and my fiance's dad wants a granddaughter too (my daughter is by my ex-husband). My fiance thinks we'll be able to supply a girl. I'm not sure what sex I'm rooting for, I just want a healthy baby.

Because of my miscarriages, the fact that I have an older kid, the fact that this baby is by a different man, the fact that I haven't had morning sickness much, and how totally pregnant I feel, everything is different this time. This one was hoped for but not really planned and not celebrated in the beginning, whereas my daughter was totally unexpected but celebrated from day one.

[alie20wi]

I'm 6 months pregnant and I have an 11month old. I to didn't planned for this pregancy. i personally think that the reason y were not that excitied is because when u were first pregnant it was something new. You wonder want it would be like to have a child around, what they would look like, how they would act? and now it's like i would my first child act? i have to get up every two to three hours every night for the next two months. i don't know maybe you feel like ur first born may feel lonely or left out.