05-20-2008, 11:37 AM
About a year ago I met a wonderful man. He is kind, generous, affectionate.... And he loves my daughter. I don't think it's just a honeymoon phase with the two of them as he loves her even more now than he did at first. My 6 year old daughter feels the same about him. She thinks the sun rises and sets on him. He lives in a different state but she calls him at night to say goodnight or when something exciting happens during her day - and he always makes time for me or her when we need him even if he's in the middle of a meeting. When we are visiting him or vice versa they do science experiments together, build stuff, etc.. A perfect example of him in general is last night - I had a migraine so bad I couldn't even see straight, much less read her a bedtime story, so my wonderful guy read her a book over the speakerphone (from his office) until she fell asleep. One issue is that she likes him more than she likes her own father (my ex). Given, my ex has never been much of a father. I have sole custody and he has a 2 hour supervised visitation once a week. Which half the time he doesn't show up for. I am thrilled that she has found a father figure in my guy. My daughter says though that whenever she "accidently" mentions our guy to her father he threatens to punish her???? She won't elaborate, and this is not the first time this has happened, there is a valid reason why he is not allowed to be alone with her. I hold the right to yank visitation temporarily if I feel something isn't right. Should I go that far? What worries me most is that me and my daughter have always been close and for the first time she won't talk to me, speaking of which I found out that she has been left alone with him for small increments at time at the vistitation center. My second question is this : Is there such a thing as too good to be true with our "new" guy? He wants to get married, wants me to be a SAHM, wants to send my daughter to a top notch private school in his area.... Its all seeming like a dream. I suppose I should mention the age difference. He is 38 and I am 23. I love him so much that I want to believe this is real, it just seems so surreal! HELP PLEASE!!!