wake09
09-11-2009, 02:20 PM
Hi, I'm new to this site. We have been trying since Jan.2009 and no luck. I just turned 39 a few weeks ago. I have a couple of questions and hoping someone can guide me in the right direction.
My 1st pregnancy ended in miscarriage at almost 12 weeks (we got pregnant on the 2nd try). My 2nd pregnancy resulted in a daughter (who will be 9 in Oct.) (conceived 1st try). My 3rd pregnancy resulted in not even trying (actually it was the only time we were together in mths, we were having problems) and that was 5yrs ago. Went in for a sonogram and to date the pregnancy, it was early.. They said they couldn't find a heartbeat, which I terminated the pregnancy. Now some background on that..... I couldn't get any info from them what that means....was it too early for heartbeat or not a viable pregnancy, etc. other than "a nurse will call you". I called the office twice after that to speak w/nurse, only to have them tell me they'll put the message though. My miscarrage was VERY traumatic, extreme abdomidal pain for 2 days, no bleeding, only to be rushed into emergeny surgery. Now, my pregnacies, I have extreme morning sickness...24/7 till the middle/end of the 2nd trimester. The 3rd pregnancy was not a good time in my life, and factoring the miscarriage and morning sickness, and not getting any answers from dr. office. I made the rash decision and opted to terminate the pregnancy b/f I miscarried and have a repeat of b/f. Now that we are trying again, I went scheduled an appt. b/c we had been trying for 7mths. only to be told that it was a viable pregnancy and there was a heartbeat. Which of course left me very upset, b/c they told me there wasn't one. Now I had guilt b/f only made it worse.
Now here are the questions. My husband is self-employed and I'm a stay at home mom and my ins. won't pay for anything that concerns infertility or trying to conceive. They did run a bunch of blood work under the issues of beening tired and weight gain)which are true) and there is thyroid issues in my family. So they were able to check my hormone levels and a bunch of other stuff. The thyroid did come back not in the normal range and I do have an appt. with a specialist for the end of Sept. Money is tight and we can't pay for any fertility treatments, which I hear is quite expensive. So I was trying to find ins that we will pay for ourselves that covers infertilty. Does anyone know of any? I tried online only to get that ins is not available in your state or it doesn't cover fertility or infertility.
I feel like I'm running this race against age 40 and loosing. And it will be a lost cause wehn I reach 40 w/o having to undergo lots of infertility treatments, which we just can't afford to do. Now maybe, I'm just too stressed and that's why it isn't easy this time around but we've tried for mths now next week will be our 9th mth trying. Or maybe the thyroid is a issue causing to have trouble this time around. If it is, I still don't know where to go from there.
My husband is just not feeling that concerned, he's pretty laid back and we have a daughter what's the big deal type of feeling he has. So he's having a hard time understanding why I'm upset and concerned. This isn't something I can talk about to my very little family, we don't have a close relationship like that. And my couple of friends are either done having children, they can't relate. And my other friend just told me today that she's 9 weeks along, so she can't relate. Hoping someone out there that can relate to me and have some words of wisdom and advise.
thanks for listening!
Lisa
My 1st pregnancy ended in miscarriage at almost 12 weeks (we got pregnant on the 2nd try). My 2nd pregnancy resulted in a daughter (who will be 9 in Oct.) (conceived 1st try). My 3rd pregnancy resulted in not even trying (actually it was the only time we were together in mths, we were having problems) and that was 5yrs ago. Went in for a sonogram and to date the pregnancy, it was early.. They said they couldn't find a heartbeat, which I terminated the pregnancy. Now some background on that..... I couldn't get any info from them what that means....was it too early for heartbeat or not a viable pregnancy, etc. other than "a nurse will call you". I called the office twice after that to speak w/nurse, only to have them tell me they'll put the message though. My miscarrage was VERY traumatic, extreme abdomidal pain for 2 days, no bleeding, only to be rushed into emergeny surgery. Now, my pregnacies, I have extreme morning sickness...24/7 till the middle/end of the 2nd trimester. The 3rd pregnancy was not a good time in my life, and factoring the miscarriage and morning sickness, and not getting any answers from dr. office. I made the rash decision and opted to terminate the pregnancy b/f I miscarried and have a repeat of b/f. Now that we are trying again, I went scheduled an appt. b/c we had been trying for 7mths. only to be told that it was a viable pregnancy and there was a heartbeat. Which of course left me very upset, b/c they told me there wasn't one. Now I had guilt b/f only made it worse.
Now here are the questions. My husband is self-employed and I'm a stay at home mom and my ins. won't pay for anything that concerns infertility or trying to conceive. They did run a bunch of blood work under the issues of beening tired and weight gain)which are true) and there is thyroid issues in my family. So they were able to check my hormone levels and a bunch of other stuff. The thyroid did come back not in the normal range and I do have an appt. with a specialist for the end of Sept. Money is tight and we can't pay for any fertility treatments, which I hear is quite expensive. So I was trying to find ins that we will pay for ourselves that covers infertilty. Does anyone know of any? I tried online only to get that ins is not available in your state or it doesn't cover fertility or infertility.
I feel like I'm running this race against age 40 and loosing. And it will be a lost cause wehn I reach 40 w/o having to undergo lots of infertility treatments, which we just can't afford to do. Now maybe, I'm just too stressed and that's why it isn't easy this time around but we've tried for mths now next week will be our 9th mth trying. Or maybe the thyroid is a issue causing to have trouble this time around. If it is, I still don't know where to go from there.
My husband is just not feeling that concerned, he's pretty laid back and we have a daughter what's the big deal type of feeling he has. So he's having a hard time understanding why I'm upset and concerned. This isn't something I can talk about to my very little family, we don't have a close relationship like that. And my couple of friends are either done having children, they can't relate. And my other friend just told me today that she's 9 weeks along, so she can't relate. Hoping someone out there that can relate to me and have some words of wisdom and advise.
thanks for listening!
Lisa