View Full Version : I am knocked up! YEAH!!
09-02-2009, 06:04 PM
My first (boy) made me want a second. My wish has been granted. I go to see the doctor the 18th. Can't wait!! YEEEAAHHH!!!!
09-02-2009, 09:10 PM
Congratulations to you!...Hubby and I have been trying for only 4 weeks (but for me, its something Ive wanted for the last 5 years!) I have had two home pregnancy tests in the last two days and they both came up with a very faint second line!...I am hoping they are so faint only because its so early on. Anyway, off to the docs in 2 hours to confirm. So excited I just want to tell everyone!...seeming I couldnt do that, I thought I would write it to who ever is out there reading this!!! Happy days to all!! xx
09-02-2009, 09:52 PM
I hope you get your wish :)!!! My second line was faint too. I went and got the digital Clear Blue test because it is a "pregnant"/"not pregnant" one. I got a pregnant result. SUPER HAPPY!!
I am five weeks. I took a test a week ago and it said Pregnant. I went to the doctor Tuesday and it took one and it had a faint line. But I am. :) she said it was faint bc I am so early :)
DUE May 8th
I have a little boy that is 4. SO we are hoping for a girl
09-04-2009, 09:22 AM
Went in to see my doctor about getting a new supply of birth control and found out I was 3 weeks pregnant LOL. I had no idea. I am at 7 months now. First doctors appointment on Wednesday. So EXCITED :) Congrats all :)
So when is yalls due dates? (yes I said yall I am from Alabama) haha
I believe I am 6 weeks pregnant. I stopped my birth control the second to last weekend in July because my husband and I wanted to get pregnant in the fall....well it took me a week to get pregnant!! I go to the doctor on the 9th and cannot wait!!! This is our first, I have been waiting so long for this, we are so excited. :) I believe I am due April 30/May 1. We'll see!
How did your doctors appointment go HM
09-11-2009, 08:06 AM
Yay!~My appoinment confirmed a great big YES to being pregnant!...we are so excited!..I did my sums and we concieved on the first try! We are all so lucky! I believe I am 6 weeks, coming into 7th. By my calculations, I will be due on the 7th/8th of May 2010. But oh the sickness!!...I have not been a well lady! Everything seems hard to get down and am sooo tired all the time. I just know it will be 1000 times worth it in the end. Hope every1 out there is doing well! xx
HEY little M. I am going on my 6th week and feeling great expect being so tired.
My belly is already poking out some but this is my second child so that is normal. Atleast the "book" says it is normal but it freaks me out if I am already showing at 6 weeks then I will be huge soon. ahhhh BUT we are very excited and hoping for a girl, since we already have a little boy.
Yay this is exciting to talk to someone that is as far along as me :)
Keep in touch
09-14-2009, 05:40 PM
Hey everyone, I'm due with my second on May 5th. I went to the doc to get on Birth Control and found out I was preggy. Have a boy hoping for a girl this time around. Congrats everyone =)
09-14-2009, 10:41 PM
Hi..My name is Kimberly and I found out about 2 weeks ago that I was pregnant and went in for an ultrasound on Friday and the doctor could see 2 sacs!!! My due date is May 10, 2010..It was completely unexpected..I have 2 kids ages 13 and 16 already so this is like new to me again...I basically had just met my boyfriend when this happened but he is happy about it..I am a little nervous about having twins..I am thinking that I would like to get married so that I would have some stability to bring these babies into...
My next doctors appointment is the 30th. I can't stand the waiting game at all. And the nurse said at the last doctors appointment that we wouldn't hear the heart beat until the end of October probably. I'm just ready to hear it and so is my husband :)
09-17-2009, 03:30 PM
I found out I am pregnant this Monday. Went to my family doctor to get confirmed the next day. Both me and my husband are 35 years old, and we thought if we were going to have kids, we should have it soon. It only took us one cycle to get pregnant, so that's good. My problem is, I am very scared. I don't know if I am ready for this. I am also worried about birth defects since I am older. Also, physically, I don't feel so good. I keep feeling this swirling movement around my abdomen, which in turns pushes my bladder. The feeling is so weird. And then everyday towards the end of the work day, I feel dead tired, so the 1 hour commute back home becomes an emotional roller coaster. I have been crying in the car for the last three days. Gosh... I really don't know if I can cope!
Of course you are going to be emotional and scared. You are growing a human being inside you. If you werent emotional that wouldnt be normal :) I go from happy to scared all the time. But you can do it. My first pregnacy I was only 20years old.. and delivered when I was 21. And I went thru it alone. I had my family but the father wasnt around. SO If I did it.. you can too.
I am now married. And due May 8th. My little boy is 4 and will be 5 in March. Also my husband is in the process of adopting my son. So it is really like he is having two kids haha. Zero to two all in a year. Anywho. point being is it is a crazy feeling and also great. The best thing you will ever do in your life.
When is your due day?
09-18-2009, 10:54 AM
JBoz, my MD said mid-May. I will be doing my ultra sound next week, and will be meeting my Ob-GYN the week after. Should have a more accurate date by then.
It's funny. After writing the last post, I already felt better. Perhaps I just needed a channel to blurt out my thoughts. My husband has been very supportive, and he encourages me to talk to other people as well so I don't feel closed in.
I am hoping this forum would help me as well!
Good I am glad you are feeling better. Feel free to vent anytime :)
I am kinda freaking out bc my belly is poking out! I wouldnt say I look pregnant. Probably just chubby.
Hope it isnt twins :)
09-18-2009, 01:00 PM
Due May 9th 2010! Have my first ultasound on the 28th. This time around my husband is coming. I can't wait for him to see the heartbeat. YEAHHHH!!! :)
I go to the doctor the 30th (2nd appointment) but they didnt say anything about an ultrasound. I dont know if they are going to give me one or not? AHHHH I will be 8 and 1/2 weeks then... what do yal think?
09-18-2009, 06:52 PM
My doctor is doing 2 ultrasounds. One is at 8-9 weeks and the other is 20 weeks. They are done by the ultrasound tec, not my doc. So, I have to schedule with her. You can always call and see if you are going to have one.
09-20-2009, 08:47 PM
I think I need help. I feel so depressed. I don't feel like eating proper meals anymore, because I couldn't have any wine, and no more after meal cigarette. I want to ride my bike but my husband wouldn't let me. The few friends I told about my having a baby are deliriously happy, and the baby is all they want to talk about. When I tell them my feelings, they just brush it off and tell me bring pregnant should be the happiest thing in a woman's life. But I don't feel like that. Now I have to hide from them coz I don't want to put on a happy face when I feel like crap. Help! I think I am scaring my husband with my uncontrollable crying. He has been ultra supportive so far. He is quitting smoking with me, and he also wouldn't touch any alcohol in front of me. I may sound like an alcoholic but I am not. I just feel... deprived. I don't think it is fair to have to make these changes for someone you haven't even met. How do you know you will love this person? How will you know if these 'sacrifices' are worthwhile? The scary thing is, if you don't make these changes, and something really happens to baby, then you will blame yourself for the rest of your life. This... is all too scary for me to handle!
I called the doctor and they do not do an ultrasound until 22 weeks and we will hear the heartbeat at my next appointment (or the next) Which all of that sucks (excuse me) but I dont know why they woudnt do one sooner. Ugh ok I will just have to talk to him when I go on the 30th
I am sorry you are not happy right now. Alot of people would love to be in your shoes.
Having a baby is emotional and so is quiting smoking. and drinking. so all that in one is a huge. I had to quit smoking too. So i know it is hard. (and drinking) But I am telling you (since I am already a mom) IT IS all worth it! I promise you that. And yes you dont know him/her yet. But you will, and that little person will be your best friend :) And OF COURSE you will love "this person" it is your child!
This really should be a happy time and I hope you get feeling better.
09-21-2009, 03:14 PM
Jboz, thank you for your encouragement. I hope I didn't scare off everyone.
I have decided to make an appointment with a family therapist to see if I need professional help in managing my emotions. My problem is that I could be fine all day, and suddenly, there will be this tsunami of tears. My husband says it is just my hormones, but I want to make sure I don't hurt anyone.
Thank you, thank you for letting me vent here!
I am glad you are going to the doctor. I will keep u in my thoughts and prayer.
Keep me updated :)
One day you look back and laugh about all this :)
09-22-2009, 09:45 AM
AWineADay, I just read your post and I really hope that your doctor can help you. Maybe there's some safe medication or even therapy that will help you get through this and feel good again. At least you can get some reassurance. Jboz is right: nicotine/alcohol addiction and hormones do crazy things to the body. Lots of people get moody during pregnancy or even just PMS but all that uncontrollable crying sounds like depression! It is SOOOOO important for you to take good care of yourself right now. I don't even need to tell you why. Talk to the doctor but also your family. Call your best friend. Make sure everyone around you knows how you need their support so they can keep an eye on you. And get (gentle) exercise like walking. It can help raise your endorphins--a natural happy drug your brain makes for itself.
Ohmygosh! I think I'm due around May 20-25. The fact that I've signed up here is a really big deal for me. I got a positive two weeks ago and had a blood test to confirm it but I've waited until now to actually let myself think I'm pregnant. I haven't told anyone but DH. I still only half believe it. I had a couple of mc's in the last 6 months, both times at less than 4 weeks after my period (early ovulation), and meanwhile crazy periods and rare fertility. I was about to start 6 months of the pill to get things back to normal so I could try again, and then, well...
I've been afraid to breathe and I keep having nightmares in which I'm sitting on the subway or at work or something and then I'm suddenly soaked in blood... I'm really really sorry if this is upsetting to anyone. I've been waking up in a panicky cold sweat and rushing to the bathroom to make sure I'm not actually bleeding. Yesterday I made it to 5 weeks past period. A milestone for me! Now I'm starting to be anxious in a new way: not about losing it but because this is really happening. I know how to deal with losing a pregnancy before it really starts but I have no idea what a healthy one might be like. I'm so glad to have found this forum so I can be in touch with other gals in the same boat. I hope I'll get to stay with you all the way this time. Healthy pregnancies to everybody!
Welcome Ombeline :)
And don't worry :)
09-24-2009, 09:23 AM
Thanks, Jboz, and I will try to chill out!
I just got off the phone with the local hospital. I live in Europe in an area with a major shortage of maternity wards and obstetricians etc. and you're supposed to "enroll" at the hospital the moment your period is late if you want a spot. There are only 15 beds in this one for a hugely populated area. The receptionist on the phone was kind of huffy because I was going about this so late and said I may not get a spot and have to travel to a different region to give birth! I guess it'll work out.
My sister-in-law in the US recently had a baby in a private (chain) hospital, and my sister is going to have twins there in a couple months. SIL had a hotel-style room looking out on a garden, a couch and an extra bed so the dad could stay the whole time and relatives could visit, and tons of reassuring high-tech equipment. And everything felt clean and quiet and safe. *Sigh.*
I can't complain about the local place since the price is right, practically free, and it's only 2 blocks from my apartment. I guess I can just walk there when the time comes!
How about the rest of you? What are your plans? How does it work in your area? It feels weird to me to have to deal with birth plans when I'm just realizing I'm pregnant.
Hey Om. Good luck chillin out.. I am good one min and crazy the next. My poor husband. But for the most part I am good.
I will have my baby about 45 miles from my house. There hospital closer but my doctor recently just start delivering at the other hospital. But I will have a Csection so the day will be scheduled closer to time.
So what made ya move to Europe? That is really neat!
I am wearing pants that I wore last week and I could button them last week.. But nope.. not today! Just in a week. geez. ha movin on up
09-25-2009, 09:53 AM
>So what made ya move to Europe? That is really neat!
Married a French guy. I was studying here, met him and stayed. I get homesick, though.
So you're already changing shape? Cool! Maybe for this week you can get a button extender; you know, an elastic loop with a button attached. I've seen them in catalogues for retired people who've gained weight and don't want to buy new pants. The loop goes over your regular button and the new button goes through the buttonhole. I guess you could make one with a ponytail holder or just sew a new button closer to the edge of the flap.
Come to think of it, there don't seem to be any maternity sections in big stores here. I'd like to go browse just for fun. Another reason I miss the land of Tar-jay. There's a specialized boutique in my town but no way am I buying stuff there when I start to need it. 50 or 60 bucks for a dumb polyester t-shirt with a few extra inches of fabric in the gut!? I'll borrow DH's clothes first. Tops are no prob, but pants may be.
I think you're a couple weeks beyond me. I'm just really bloated so far. Gross. Hard to button up, too. My only new change this week is 24-hour/day nausea. The worst is during my public transit commute. Crowds, smells, stuffiness, motion, blah!
Wow. Om that sounds like a true love story! Where are you from?
Yes I am 8 weeks and already my bellys pokin. this is my second child so they say it is "normal" I know by my name it says "new parent" but I am not. I just dont know how to change that.
The public transit commute does sound rough. I work with the public (at a bank) and the smell of some of the customers makes me gag.
Other than that I am sleepy alot and my face is broke out which I have never had happen before so...
So when do you get to go to the doctor?
I go again Wednesday the 30th
09-25-2009, 12:00 PM
I'm from CA, a much nicer place to live in lots of ways I think but this guy is a treasure worth leaving home for. I know what you mean: some of my students wear heavy musky perfume that you smell 10 feet away, which is always gross anyway, and a whiff makes me gag these days. As for the subway, it smells of pee, sweat, old cigarettes and cheap cologne.
How old is your first child, Jboz? Maybe you said it in another post above... Are you a lot more relaxed and confident this time around? I hope it helps to know what to expect.
I started having nasty acne when I first got KU and, instead of going away when I lost it, it just got worse and worse since then! I even have some scars now. I had just started topical meds but had to stop them when I found out a few weeks ago. Darn hormones. Stress doesn't help either.
I see my regular gynecologist next Thursday, just the day after you. I don't like her especially--always seems in a rush, says nothing except "Date of your last period? Undress. Lie down. Stand up. Goodbye." Really comforting. She's supposed to take care of everything for the first 5 months, and all lab stuff (bloodwork, ultrasound etc.) has to be done in a private laboratory somewhere else once she gives me a prescription. After that it's all at the hospital if they can fit me in. It's been so hard to navigate this new system. Totally different from what I was used to. Once again, the best thing is that it's cheap.
Oh CA. That sounds wonderful. I am from Alabama.
My little boy (Grant) is 4. He will be five right before the baby gets here
Sorry I had so many type-o's
I am working and typing.
09-26-2009, 02:13 PM
KU = knocked up. Hmm, looks kind of vulgar when I write it all out. I should have said "in an interesting condition" or "expecting a visit from the stork" or something!
I'm the last person who should be telling other folks to relax (I still wake up 3 or 4 times a night after horrible dreams where I lose the baby) but I'm sure you're a great mom and your baby will come out just perfect into a loving family.
09-27-2009, 11:03 AM
i found out about a week ago that i'm pregnant. im 6 weeks and really happy. but i have a problem... heartburn kills me does anyone knows what i should do about it? i've been taking tums maximun strength that has 1,000 mg of calcium and it helps a lil. btw im due on may 23 :-)
09-27-2009, 11:57 AM
Congrats, Gabriela. I'm May 25 for now (still to be adjusted) so we're in about the same place!
I hope someone here will have good heartburn advice for you because I need it too. Nausea + heartburn advice would be even better. I don't know what to do about it either, I'm afraid. I've been trying to eat bland, simple foods and not let my stomach get empty because that seems to make it worse but even a slice of white bread makes me want to throw up and then gives me indigestion. Good luck to you, hang in there and let us know if/how you find relief!
09-27-2009, 12:15 PM
Gabriela, I've been looking for pregnancy heartburn and nausea info online. Here are a few of the many websites I found:
http://www.naturalremediesforbetterhealth.com/pregnancy.html (This one says to eat fresh pineapple after meals to help you digest!)
Basically, all the websites I read tell you not to lie down just after eating; you should sleep with your head propped up; avoid caffeine; have frequent small meals and avoid eating a lot at a time; avoid rich/fatty foods.
I also read somewhere that you shouldn't take antacids without talking to your doctor because some have lots of sodium, which can be bad for you, and some apparently INCREASE stomach acid an hour or so after you take them.
Take care. I'm off to make myself a cup of ginger tea. It seems to help a tiny bit.
09-28-2009, 12:13 PM
Congratulations to all! I just found out that I am pregnant too! Yippee! I am so excited!
Congrats lauren! Been to the doc yet? due date?
09-28-2009, 06:57 PM
Thanks! I should be due May 26 according to the due date calculators. I have an appointment for the doctor's office on the 12th of Oct. I will be so relieved to hear that little heartbeat!
09-29-2009, 06:40 AM
Welcome, Lauren! I see the doctor for the first time this Thursday and I am so nervous and excited. I'm trying not to let myself get too excited just in case but I can't help it. Is this your first pregnancy? I hope everything will go wonderfully for you!
Jboz, good luck with your doc's appointment tomorrow (I think it's tomorrow). Let us know how it goes.
I had a break from nausea last night so I took advantage of it to eat a real meal: salad and a cup of soup. Big mistake. I'll stick to crackers, lemon juice and ginger until this passes. Someone recently advised me to eat bananas--"because they taste good going down and they still taste OK coming back up".
09-29-2009, 10:43 AM
I'm Cass and I found out last week that I was pregnant. Now I'm waiting on an appointment to be able to get the blood tests drawn for confirmation and to see an OB/GYN. I was in shock last week because September actually marks one year of trying and we're finally PREGNANT!!!. I'm so excited!
According to the calculators, I'm due 23 May but I'm hoping for 21 May as that's my late father-in-law's b-day and if this baby's a boy then he'll be named after both dads.
Well we went to the doctor this morning and I actually talked the doctor in to giving me an ultrasound :) We got to see the baby and hear the heartbeat... It was great
09-30-2009, 11:39 AM
Awesome! A heartbeat! That's wonderful, Jboz. Reading your post makes me excited about my own doc's visit tomorrow. I won't be able to have an ultrasound or anything but at least the visit will make it all real. I wish DH were here but he's out of the country on business.
Congrats and welcome, Cass. It's an incredible feeling to get pregnant after trying for a long time. Enjoy it!
09-30-2009, 11:42 AM
BTW, I just emailed my bosses with the news. I had to because I'll need a different schedule in spring. Waiting anxiously for their reaction: will they renew my (part-time) contract or not?
Thanks Om yes it did make it all so real. My husband "teared" up. Ha he was a marine so he "doesnt cry" But I saw the tears :)
The doc said he would probably do my csection in late April when I am around 38 weeks. But I am staying in the May birthclub :)
09-30-2009, 01:57 PM
Yeah, stick with us, Jboz! That's sweet, your teary-eyed marine. After the first ultrasound of his daughter, my younger brother was utterly transformed from a macho tough guy who liked violent video games into a besotted father hen who stopped on his way home from work to buy tiny pink pj's printed with "Daddy loves me".
I'm sure my husband will cry, too. He hasn't reacted much to the idea of fatherhood yet, at least not around me. I think he actually talks of nothing else when I'm not there. When I told him I was pregnant I asked him to tell NOBODY until things were more sure and he promised, and of course all his colleagues were congratulating me and offering advice the very next day.
I'm not sacked after all. They're trying to adapt my 2nd-semester schedule. Excellent.
09-30-2009, 03:49 PM
hello everyone again!
im sorry i wasnt able to log on earlier. thank you Ombeline for the heartburn tips i cant wait to try it! i have my appoinment nxt week i cant wait im going to have an ultrasound tomorrow though cause last week i was spotting a lil and i had to rush to ER. i cant wait to hear the baby's heart beat im so excited!
10-01-2009, 04:22 AM
Not to barge in on the thread but I thought I would offer a tip for the heartburn. I had a little bit and my husband suggested that I put a spoonful of baking soda in a glass of water. I checked with my doc first and she said it was safe. I just wanted to throw that out there for everyone. Congratulations to you all!
10-01-2009, 07:19 AM
Hey Tiarnan's mama, thanks for this. I sometimes use baking soda for upset stomach and it works wonders. I wasn't sure if it was OK to use now, but I'm sure glad your doctor says it is. I'm drinking some as I type! I am ready for relief.
Let us know how your doctors appointment goes today OM
10-01-2009, 01:16 PM
Lasted about 10 minutes, Jboz! I just got back. The doc said I looked fine, gave me a prescription for vitamins because I insisted. They don't systematically give prenatals here. Blood tests on Saturday. She said I could get an ultrasound in 5-7 weeks. That seems so far away. I'll be at 12 weeks by then, if not more. I want some heartbeat.
I saw I'd lost over 2 kilos since last week because of nausea, which is...I don't know, 5 pounds? Well, that ought to please my French doctors. They're always telling me I'm "heavy" even though my US doctors say I have a perfectly healthy body mass index, strong bones and lots of muscle. The French ideal body image sure is different from mine. Getting fat is the ultimate national nightmare. Here, I was told I should not eat any extra calories at all during the first 6 months but could increase by up to 200-250 a day in the last trimester, if I really must! Compare that to "vitamins and an extra 300 calories a day throughout pregnancy and breastfeeding". Some French doctors let you have a glass of wine a day, and maybe 1 or 2 cigarettes if you feel you need them. They only tell you to avoid raw beef and fresh leafy green vegetables--because toxoplasmosis is a big thing here. Recently I was at a dinner party where they served salmon "tartare" (= raw) and red wine, and the lady next to me was 5 mos. pregnant and enjoying it all. I feel like I'm on an alien planet sometimes. Sorry for my ranting!
10-02-2009, 12:11 AM
thank you for the baking soda tip it helps a lot! i was just wondering if this is your first baby and how old you are. i would like to get to know you guys a lil more. im 22 years old and this is my first baby so im really anxious! Ombeline every country has their own prenatal care in my country you are allowed to eat anything as long as your blood pressure and sugar is controlled! i live in maryland now so i dont get to do that> :-) more since my husband is american>
10-05-2009, 08:55 AM
Hi, Gabriela. As for me, I'm 27 and this'll be my first baby. I'm terribly anxious, too, so you're not alone. I bet we all are, even if we've had 5 kids already. It's always a scary, risky, amazing thing!
You're right. Prenatal care is really a cultural thing, not just scientific and medical, and it varies a lot between countries. I'm sure I'll be fine here. It helps to be supported. This week, after years of ZERO interest in anything pregnancy-related, my husband is suddenly reading hospital reviews, researching episiotomy and cesarian rates, dragging me off to visit private clinics an hour away... I think it finally hit him that there's something happening here and now he wants to come to all my doctor's visits. I'm so glad because I know he'll ask the questions I always forget to ask and insist on getting me whatever I need. He understands the French system better than I do.
So you're in a "mixed" couple, too! Where are you from, if I may ask?
10-05-2009, 10:18 AM
I'm Julie and I just found out on Friday that I'm 6.5 weeks pregnant! I found out while taking a routine blood pregnancy test before starting progesterone to make me start a period because dr.s said my husband and I could not conceive naturally. We were getting ready to start IUI. My first ultrasound is not going to be until 10 weeks. I'm not sure I can wait that long! I'm having very few symptoms, which I know makes me lucky, but it also makes me nervous that something is wrong. I do have to pee more often, and my breasts feel bigger, but I have no nausea whatsoever. Is anyone else experiencing this? I just need reassurance that everything is going to be fine! According to all the websites, my due date is May 26th.
Congrats Julie.. Welcome!
I wasnt sick at first I have actually bragged and bragged that I havent been sick... until last Friday.... I woke up so sick and with a bad headache. I have felt like crap every since..
I wasnt sick at all with my son... so everyone is different and every pregnancy is different
i just want to go home and go to bed
Sorry to be grouchy this morning....
10-06-2009, 02:31 PM
Welcome, Julie! Good for you! I was on progesterone and about to start the pill to regulate things because my doctor told us it was nearly impossible for me to get pregnant... but it looks like she was wrong!
I'm sure you shouldn't be nervous about not having morning sickness. I felt fine like you and then it hit me suddenly in week 5. I've heard that lots of people don't get sick at all, and it's normal to start feeling sick between weeks 3 and 8 if you're going to be sick, so with any luck you'll be hanging over the toilet within another week or so! :)
Jboz, this may not get rid of your headaches but a "tea" made from grated ginger and lemon juice in hot water is really helping me with the nausea and grouchiness. I keep a little thermos on my desk and just sip it all day. I guess you could put honey in it. Sorry you're feeling bad! Hang in there. Get your husband to give you a scalp/temples/neck massage when you get home.
That tea sounds really good. make me some and send it to me!
Yes the hubby is def gona have to rub my head today. It is pounding!
10-07-2009, 12:03 PM
Hey ladies..I just found out I was pregnant and have my first ultrasound and doctor's appointment next Thursday. I am slowly getting excited, however this is not a planned baby and we are not married and don't know what we are going to do. I thought it would be great to talk to other women who are already moms and new moms and could give advice with all this sickness and other things. I look forward to hearing back from yall.
Congrats Meggers. Let us know how ur doc appmt goes.
And dont worry about not being married and it being "un planed." My son was that way and it all worked out great :)
10-09-2009, 07:58 PM
Thank you Jboz. It feels like it is taking forever for Thursday to get here for my apt!
It's good to know that it does work out. My boyfriend has told me if I have the baby he will no longer be with me and doesn't know if he will even support the kid.. so it looks like I will be a single mom at 21. Even more scared now.
10-11-2009, 01:27 AM
Ombeline, im from El Salvador and im actually going to get married in 2 weeks! im really excited! and meggers dont worry everything will be fine im actually 21(im turning 22 nxt week) and my wasnt really planned... like idk how to explain it i wanted a kid but i wasnt planning it idk. and thanksfully my boyfriend (18 yrs old) is going to take care of both us. abortions are bad and if your boyfriend wants that for his baby he is not a good man and you might as well dump him yourself.
10-11-2009, 03:01 PM
congrats! best of luck to everyone
10-12-2009, 05:33 PM
I have a question for anyone who has had their first ultrasound. I had my first one today. I thought I was 7 weeks, but I'm actually measuring 5.5. They saw the gestational sac, yolk sac, and even a heartbeat, which is great. I noticed when I got home that the form says that the crown rump length measurement has me measuring 5.9 weeks, and the gestational sac says 5.0 weeks. Did anyone else have measurements that were different like that? I just don't know if it's normal or not. The dr. didn't say anything about it, and I assume if he was concerned he would have. I don't have an appt. for another 3 weeks, I'm not sure if I can stand it!
10-13-2009, 08:10 AM
I just had my first ultrasound yesterday. It's so comforting to see the little heartbeat!
Julie - my measurements were only off by a few days. But there is such a wide range of what is "normal". Also, I am sure it is hard to get a true measure of the fetus due to it's shape. I wouldn't worry about it, but I would call the doctor's office and ask a nurse(for your own comfort). That is what she is there for.
On a side note...should we start other threads in this group? Any ideas?
Meggers. I was also a single mom at 21 until my son was 3. It was hard but I wouldnt change it for the world.. I never (at that moment) would think it would turn out as GREAT as it did.
OK I am just going to put this out there.... does anyone have a problem with their sex drive.. I dont have one at alllllllll!
10-19-2009, 08:02 AM
Since you're bold enough to start this topic, I'll have to say it's a big fat ZERO for me, Jboz! I think I've managed maybe 3 times since I started feeling pregnant, and each time it was just because I wanted to be nice to my poor husband. All the baby books say it's normal to feel this way in the first trimester but it's still rotten. I'm usually just too tired and nauseous to even think about it and even when I'm feeling ok, it's just been uncomfortable--even painful! It probably doesn't help that I'm still constantly stressed about miscarrying. But all the books also say that things get better in every way in the second trimester, so I'm keeping my fingers crossed. My mom has a friend who had morning sickness and no libido and every other misery, the works, during all three pregnancies up until the week she delivered, but I'm sure we can't be that unlucky.
Otherwise, I hope you're feeling a little better! I'm finding this hard to handle. I usually love to cook and eat but now everything food related is a horrible experience. I don't even know how much weight I've lost already. My pants are too tight around the waist (probably just from bloating! I think it's too early for me to be showing) and getting baggier and baggier around the thighs. No food, no sex... only abstract hopes of a healthy baby to give meaning to my days. :)
Well we havent.. "ya know" in about a month. My poor husband.. I feel so bad for him..
I am feeling ALOT better. It is like a switch flipped.. No more nausua.. I can actually eat real food and not just soup. I am still tired but not as bad.
But the sex thing.. ugh. nooooooooooooo thank you.. I hope that changes. It is difinatly putting a damper on our relationship.
My hormones as so out of wack it is like we fight all the time. I feel like a crazy woman. I hope to feel sane soon.
I wasnt like this with my son. So hopefully it means this is a girl.
10-19-2009, 05:45 PM
Hi girls, I'm back! Used to be all negative when I found out I was pregnant a month ago, and now, I am feeling much better. Kudos to Jboz - you might not think much of your reply to me here, but your encouragement helped me through...
Juliebeanie - I have the same scenario as you do with the ultrasound measurements. My first supposed 7 week 2 days ultrasound showed only the sac - dating at just 5 weeks 6 days. We all tried to console ourselves that I remembered by last menstrual period wrong. The doctor had me schedule another ultrasound 10 days later. Guess what, in 10 days, it only grew '3 day's worth' - 6 weeks 2 days. Luckily, there was heartbeat.
I was quite worried. This is my first pregnancy, and it wasn't really planned. I am older (35 years old), I drink wine with dinner regularly. I smoke. You know, all the vices.
My MD had me take another blood test to measure hCG. Luckily, the numbers are good. He said ultimately, blood numbers are more indicative of the embryo's health than the images, since we can be all different sizes and shapes.
So, juliebeanie, don't worry too much.
Yay Wine I am so glad you are back. I have been worried about you. I glad I could help in any kind of way. :)
10-21-2009, 07:00 AM
Oh God, I'm lying on my back waiting for my husband to come home and take me to the hospital. I think it's over, again. I felt fine and then I started bleeding. I just feel numb and dead inside. I can't handle this again. Please pray for me, and I wish you all the best of luck. May nothing like this happen to anyone else.
10-21-2009, 08:16 AM
I am so very sorry, Ombeline. I am praying that the doctors can help you!
10-21-2009, 09:29 AM
Wow! Thank you, Lauren! Your prayers worked. I just got home. I have never been so relieved in my life. The pain and bleeding weren't a mc but a... what's it called in English? The placenta is slightly detached but the pregnancy is going well otherwise. I'm on bed rest and Spasfon for 10 days. And the biggest shock of all is that it's TWINS. I was so sure I'd have no baby at all when I went into the emergency room and then I got two of them! We saw them wriggling and squirming and heard their heartbeats. I was sobbing with relief. My husband's jaw just dropped and his eyes glazed over. We can't believe it. I want to call my mother right away but she's in a different time zone and I guess I'll let her sleep a little more!
Om wow! What an experince!!!! I am so happy you are ok.. And twins.... wow!!!!
I bet yal are very excited... Yay
10-22-2009, 07:58 AM
I am so glad that everything worked out! Yay twins! That is so exciting!
10-22-2009, 08:28 AM
Thanks, gals. I'm still overwhelmed and trying to figure out what it will mean. Two--it feels really different from one! Not the exclusive mother-baby relationship I was imagining but a whole family all at once. But I'm so happy.
Where will we put them in our tiny apartment? How will I transport them through the stroller-hostile urban jungle? What if they're both crying and hungry at once? How will we pay to send them both to college at the same time?
My biggest concern for the moment is this placenta tear. I'm lying flat, trying not to move, not sure how long this will last. I'm already sick of being in bed. I go back next Friday for a checkup to see if the tear is better or worse. Every time I get up to pee I lose more blood and it freaks me out, even if the doctor said the babies were fine for now.
I would be overwelmed too :) My aunt had triplets so I was would about multiples...
I hope everything is ok OM
How far along are you again
10-22-2009, 01:16 PM
8 weeks preg, Jboz (almost 10 weeks amenorrhea). Where are you now? You're several weeks ahead of me, right? Triplets! I'm relieved it's just two. There are a few sets of twins in my grandparents' and great-grandparents' generations, and my sister is expecting twins in a few weeks, but I was totally not expecting this. I'm lying around, already sick of it, but I guess things are fine. This is supposed to heal if I just don't move much. It was like a happiness drug, getting to see those two babies moving around.
I am 12 weeks... and feeling wonderful. Finally
How long do you have to be on bed rest?
I go to the doctor next Friday (the 30th)
I love going to the doc bc here on out I will get to hear the heartbeat :)
10-23-2009, 11:16 AM
Just "strict" bed rest for 2 days, so just about over. Phew. I'm so glad the bleeding has stopped. Then I'm supposed to stay home till next Friday, when I also go back to the hospital for another US to check.
When you're on paid medical leave here, you're supposed to be present at the home address you registered with at the Social Security office between 9 and 5, to make sure you're not faking it and going on vacation. If they suspect you're not really sick, the insurance people might call or even knock on your door to check. I did have to go out this afternoon to mail a paper to the Social Sec. office so I could still be paid all week. I forgot to give it to my husband before he left and it had to be postmarked today. The post office is maybe 6 blocks away and it was slow going, mostly because I felt so weird from not moving for a while and because I was scared. I actually fainted from getting up too fast this morning! Low bp.
I loved hearing the heartbeat, too! I can't wait to go back, just for that.
Well 2 days is not that bad.. It is almost over now.
Where is it that you live again (pregnancy brain)
And you get to hear heartbeatS with a "S" how fun
10-23-2009, 02:42 PM
hi ladies. this is my first post... :) i am 31 and 10 weeks pregnant and my husband and i are looking forward to hearing the heartbeat on Monday! my daughter is six and i became a stepmom to 3 more in March (7g, 14b, 16g.) i have always wanted more kids, but I had a few miscarriages in the past. i was sure that my step children were fulfilling my dreams of having a full house, BUT after the first attempt to get pregnant with my new husband we were lucky! i still have my moments when i get worried or scared during the occasional cramping, but for the most part everything is normal!! and it looks like we may get another addition to the family!!
i'm wondering if any of you has more than one child and if your pregnancy symptoms have always been the same or if they were different? With my last pregnancy I had melasma (the mask), but didn't get stretchmarks and i'm just wondering if there's a good chance my symptoms will be the same?
10-24-2009, 02:33 AM
Welcome, DAkao! Congrats! I know what you mean: had some mcs too before this pregnancy so I am doubly anxious about every little detail. It's wonderful that your family is growing. I'm from a family of lots of kids in a kind of similar situation: I have full brothers (and a foster bro), and half-sisters who have another half-bro and step-bros of their own. Not always easy but I feel so lucky to have them all.
10-26-2009, 12:35 PM
thanks ombeline! you're right it's definitely tough at times, but i'm a firm believer that tough times usually pay off. just like pregnancy... i am not one of those girls that enjoys pregnancy (blah-to all the symptoms) BUT i love what comes after!
off to hear the heartbeat....
10-27-2009, 10:07 AM
DAkao, did you get to hear your baby's heartbeat? I hope all went well!
Welcome Dakao! and congrats
So is anyone showing yet????
10-27-2009, 03:20 PM
My friend just told me that I am starting to show. How depressing is that! I am only 10 weeks. This is my third, so I expected to show earlier than the first, but this is earlier than I expected. Don't gt me wrong, I am very excited to be pregnant, just was hoping to hide it longer;) ...oh yea and when I lay on my belly, it feels like I am lying on a ball:)
10-28-2009, 09:26 AM
well, i had my doc apptmt and she couldn't find a heartbeat. i started spotting and cramping an hour before my ultrasound. they found an empty sac. :(
yesterday was a pretty tough day. telling the kids was the worst! my husband was so supportive and i'm sure once everything is back to normal we'll try again.
thanks & good luck to you all!
10-28-2009, 10:05 AM
I'm so, so sorry! I've been there and I know there's really nothing anyone can say to make you feel better. I'll keep you in my prayers and I hope you'll have another very soon. Come back and visit us whenever you feel like it but I'm sure we'll all understand if you'd rather not. :( Good luck.
10-29-2009, 06:11 AM
To answer your question from a few posts ago, Jboz, I guess I'm not showing yet but I'm definitely changing shape. My waist is gone! I was never skinny but I had a nice slim waist, well-defined... and now I'm more like a column than an hourglass. There's bloating and slowed digestion on top of that so by the end of the day I haven't been able to keep my jeans buttoned.
Speaking of which, I found a nice tutorial here http://www.craftster.org/forum/index.php?topic=28377 for making your own easy maternity pants and I plan to use it but it's too early for that yet. As a mid-way solution for the next month or so, I cut triangles out of the waistband of a pair of pants just in front of each hip, stitched in a few inches of elastic to replace the chopped out fabric, then covered the hole/elastic band with a stretchy piece of old T-shirt that I stitched on below the cut, right side to right side, and then folded up over the band and stitched to the inside. Hmm, I should have taken pictures. It was really easy and took no sewing skills (I'm still working on mine). It doesn't show at all if I wear a slightly long shirt and it's sooooo much comfier. Not ready for sweats and mumus yet.
Well I guess you can say I am showing. I can not button my pants. I still wear them but unbuttoned and folded. I have one pair of black maternity (work) pants I wear alot. I still can wear most of my shirts. But I do have people ask me when I am due.. so no hiding it now haha. I work at a bank so I see alot of the same people so they can tell I have a bump, some are brave enough to ask and some just look at me funny. Haha. I have a smaller frame and this is my second so i guess it is normal that I am showing at 12 weeks or so. I just got really self concus when a lady asked me if i was having twins!!!! silly rednecks
Just got back from the doc. I heard the heartbeat and everythings great. I go back in 4 weeks (week of thanksgiving) for a check up and go in 6 weeks (dec 9th) to find out if it is a boy or girl.... Yay... the count down begins :)
11-02-2009, 03:39 AM
That's great, I'm so glad all is well. I know you're hoping for a girl this time so I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. Let's start another thread: boy or girl? What people are hoping for and what they find out about the gender. The moment of truth (or of confusion if the baby won't cooperate!) is getting closer for us all.
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