Waiting!!!

[Akagirl]

Hi everyone. I am new here. My hubby and I are in the waiting stage of our adoption process. I was told of this site by my best friend. I think today is a down day for me. We have had a failed placement and then I found out today that the young lady that our social worker contacted us about last week, that sought us out is now having second thoughts. So, today is a day that I am feeling a bit down. We have gone through four failed IVF cycles and want to be parents so bad. I guess today I just needed to vent.

I just wanted to chat with others that are in the adoption process. Just wondering what did you do to pass the time. We haven't been waiting a year yet. But it seems like forever.

[i'm a cruising mommy]

welcome. i would tell you to stay away from H.Starr i'm getting rid of my account cause she's mean and a troll. So stay awhile and hoping that your meet some great friend here i know i did but i was wrong with H.Starr. And hope that your son or daughter makes it here soon. good luck.

[Akagirl]

I'm A Cruising Mommy, thanks so much for responding to me and your kind words. I think today was very tough for me. In the past week alone four people I know have announced they are pregnant. My hubby and I have been through four IVF cycles that didn't work. So, we decided that it was more important for us to be parents then pregnant, so we decded to build our family through adoption. Well, today when I went in to work one of my coleagues told me that she is pregnant with twins, her and her husband did IVF during the summer.

So, I have had a bit of a black cloud over my head.

But, back to you, who is H.Starr? What did she do? And don't let anyone run you away from a place you are enjoying. I am just meeting you, but, you seem really nice. Enjoy being here and disregard H.Starr, whomever that is. If you don't mind me asking, what happened?

[H.Starr]

Ohhhhh goodness.
Your friend Cruising Mommy does not like me because I am not nice to 'her.'
The reason for this is that she has already admitted that she is a high school kid who has no kids of her own and only comes on here to see how other people raise their kids. Which would be fine, BUT, she makes up stories and takes pictures of REAL children off the MEMORIAL sites that their parents have made for them because they are DECEASED and posts them on here claiming that they are her own children.
She is a child predator, if she is a she at all, who gets her 'thrills' from little kids.
So, no, of course I am not nice to her. Far from a troll though, with my over 1500 posts. ;)
She certainly is 'nice,' just don't let her see any children's photos, I can only imagine what she uses them all for.

To the point, good luck with your adoption process, I hope it works out for you. I am sorry it is taking so long.

[H.Starr]

http://forums.parenting.com/showthread.php?t=10133

[Akagirl]

Shi*!!!! Heather, are you kidding me. That is sick. My God, I just joined and I get this. I was truly feeling sorry for this fool. I am a teacher, and you have knocked me over with her/him/whatever taking photos of deceased children. OMG!!!!!!!!!! Thanks so much for responding and enlightening me to this a** clown as my husband calls simple people.

[H.Starr]

No problem. :)

[mom2aboy]

Akagirl: Congratulations on becoming a new mom. Hope you can have your baby with you very soon. As far as the cruising mommy thing, yes, stay away from her. We all had to remove our kids pics from here because of trolls like her/ him or maybe because of her/him. You'll learn to recognize them pretty soon, they seem to be attracted to this site. But you'll also find priceless information and advice here. Welcome to the site!!

[Akagirl]

Mommy2aboy, thanks so much for you all letting me know. That is just damn sad and sick. But, I should have known something was going on when this sick person was saying stay away from her because she is "mean". That did catch my eye, I was thinking what grown woman is referring to another adult woman as being mean. But, I let it go.

I am really just knocked over by this. But I am glad to know. Thanks so much.

[allisonb]

Hi! I just wanted to share with you how wonderful I think adoption is. My youngest brother was adopted when he was 4 months old, he's now 15, and I can't imagine life without him. He has been such a wonderful and perfect addition to our family. I don't even think of him as "adopted" unless someone asks the question. I'm sorry to hear that you're having some difficulties with your adoption process, but I hope that your child comes to you soon. I really believe that my brother was meant to be with our family. He's also my daughter's favorite uncle :)
Just wanted to wish you the best of luck and let you know that adoption is WONDERFUL!

[lou]

I'm so sorry you're feeling down. I truely hope things work out for you soon. it sounds as though you've a lot of love to give a child and I'm so happy you're adopting. I would love to adopt myself someday or do foster parenting. some child is going to be very lucky to have you. I can empathize with how you're feeling as far as not being pregnant, while seemingly everyone else is. before my son I miscarried and it seemed like everyone was having babies. I was really down myself. don't worry though, in time what is meant to be will be. there are so many children out there that need a loving home. I'm sure god or what ever spirits there may be are just searching for the right one.

[Akagirl]

Allisonb, thanks so much for this wonderful and inspirational post. Hearing this really puts a smile on my face. And, especially at this time, I needed to hear this. Thanks so much.

[Akagirl]

Lou, thanks so much, your post is sweet. I'm glad that you and Allison reached out to me today. This week has been a bit sad for me. Just seeing these two post has really brightened my evening. Thanks so much. You two are really sweet.

[ellandriel]

Keep your chin up! What avenue are you using to adopt?
We have adopted 4 times in the past 4 years and the waiting never gets easier! The longest we had to wait was 6 months but we were matched then and just waiting. I am slated to begin IVF in October! I am not too hopeful but all the same it would be great!

I am anxious to hear about your experiences so far!
We had quite a few fall apart and 1 that after the baby was discharged to me and during the 3 day wait the birthmom changed her mind and I had to give the baby back. Also when I was present for a birth and a few hours later that birthmom changed her mind... It isn't easy, but it is worth it!